Registered: 1522649879 Posts: 1
I lost my precious 13 year old german shepherd suddenly to cancer then 9 days later my 16 year old beautiful old man border collie to giving up/old age. It's been 4 weeks since my last boy passed and the grief has come back with a vengeance. My shepherd got sick and I took him to the vet that day for them to discover he had a massive growth in his stomach, I didn't even know he was sick. When I got home my border collie had had a little turn and couldn't walk... he recovered but was lost without his buddy . 8 days later he had another turn and couldn't walk so I made the decision the next day. My vet and team were so amazing and I had them cremated and returned in velvet pouches inside ingraved wooden boxes and have made a little shrine for them.
I still have a 10 year old rescue german shepherd with me but I can't deal with the emptiness of my home. My rescue boy was meant to be here with my other shepherd when my border collie passed but that was not to be. They helped him overcome extreme neglect in the 4 months they were all together, I walk him twice a day, socialise him, cuddle him, spoil him and he won't stop barking at nothing, I'm going crazy and I don't know how to make him stop barking.
I moved to a new city 9 months back and have isolated myself from all of the new friends. I am angry, lonely and sad. Those boys looked after me more than I looked after them and have been with me since I was a teenager. I don't know what I'll do without them. I've never been so sad in my life 😪
Registered: 1522076608 Posts: 26
My heart goes out to you more than you can possibly imagine. I lost both my Fur Babies in just over a year as of this past February 20th. The pain and sense of loss you are feeling must seem more than you can bear right now but I promise you life will get better. I know it's easier said than done but please don't isolate yourself. That's the worst thing you can do. There are so many resources available. Pet loss support hotlines have helped me tremendously because you can never underestimate the power of the human voice, and just being able to talk to someone who will just listen, and validate your feelings is a wonderful connection.
You and your surviving boy need support right now. Please reach out. He needs you just as much as you need him. Lean on each other. An animal behaviorist may be able to help about his barking. One thing I might suggest is not cuddling him when he barks. He learns that when he has anxiety he gets affection and that can be a terrible cycle. I could be wrong, but that's the way it is with cats. You will both get through this with love, support, and some professional help. It's just a hunch, but his barking may be because he knows you're in incredible pain and feels helpless. I don't know. Try and be strong for him and then you can help each other. I so wish I could help you and the only way I can do that is to let you know that my heart goes out to you, and to say please, please don't isolate yourself. Get the help both you and your boy need. Take life one minute at a time, then one hour, then one day. Take care. My prayers are with you. God Bless. Sabrina & Buster's Mom
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I am so sad for you. Such a difficult time. I sent you a private message and hope you get it.