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BK_122

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I’m constantly asking myself if I did the right thing. Yogi was my 13 year old terrier mix. He came to me as a year and a half old rescue. We bonded immediately and we were devoted friends. He was diagnosed with a renal gland tumor. He was given a prognosis of 6 months. I took him to a veterinary oncologist who put him on Palladia. He was on it for 2 years when decided for a variety of reasons to take him off the meds. He slowly declined for 8 more months. A week ago he took a sudden turn. Lethargic, no appetite and labored breathing. Four days ago the vet said he had developed spots on his liver and something in his lungs. I weighed the options and decided to end his suffering. It was the most painful moment in my life to hold him as he died. He trusted me completely. Did I do what was right for him? How long will morn him?
Eriksfurrbabies

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Hello BK_122

I am sorry for your loss. It sounds to me that you gave Yogi an amazing life and good care. You did all you could but you also accepted the promise we all make when we get our fur babies: we will not let them suffer. We will take the pain upon us from losing them so that they can be pain free. It is the hardest but also the bravest decision we can make, we take the suffering upon us.

When it gets to mourning, it is different for all people. Do not set a time on mourning and take it day by day. Allow yourself the time you need, it WILL pass.

Do not blame yourself, you made the right decision for Yogi, and he loves you for it.
BK_122

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Thank you so very much for your kindness and compassion. I’m a 74 year old man and have had to say goodbye to other animals. None have affected me as much as holding him as he died. He came to me a bit broken. I was his human and trusted and loved me uncontrollably. He let a few others into his life but as my son told me...Yogi loved me like no animal has ever loved a human. I worry that I’m overreacting. So, again. Thank You for your support
Eriksfurrbabies

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You are not overreacting, not at all. Nobody can ever say just how deeply an animal will touch us. Some will go deeper than others, but no other person can judge how you feel.

We love our companions because their love has no conditions whereas human love has so many pitfalls. So I understand all too well just how hurt you can be.

Stay strong and take care, it is what Yogi would want you to do.

Erik
cosesmom

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I am so very sorry for you and Yogi. What a trooper you and he were. Wow, you both gave it a valiant effort. You were Yogi's hero and you did the best for him. We all try to do what ever it takes to make their lives richer and better but there comes a time when we need to be the stronger one and let them go knowing our lives will never be the same, ever again. It hurts to the bottom of our hearts and we will always mourn for them. It's been 21 months since I let my beloved Termy go at the age of 16 and I still cry. He loved me so much as I loved him. It's the same for you and Yogi. Even though it hurts, you did the right thing. You would never have been able to live with yourself if he was to suffer. Mourn him but also honor him. Cry to but smile even as the tears flow. Yogi is near you and he will always be at your side until you both cross over the Bridge one day, together.
Love and doggie hugs
Termy's mom
BK_122

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Thank you so very much for your kindness. I am still coming to terms with Yogi being gone. I expect to see him when I come home and in all his usual places. He was not an easy dog in many ways. He was a bit damaged from his early life in shelters. But, I was his human Dad and this was his forever home. Knowing I’m not alone in my grief is very comforting. I am deeply sorry for your loss and hope you find comfort as your words have helped me. I picked up Yogi’s ashes today. I will have a small memorial ceremony later in the summer. It’s much to difficult to do so now. Thank you for your caring response. May you find comfort as well.
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