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Babe... oh she was amazing! She was a lab/collie cross and just so very special. She came into my life 10 yrs ago, thanks to a Craigslist ad that said she needed a new home by the end of the day or would be brought to the pound. We didn't know much about her. When I brought her to the vet I was told that, based on the tattoo in her ear, she was likely 5 or 6 yrs old at the time. She lived a long and amazing life.
I have 5 children and they all formed an incredible bond with her. I am absolutely HEARTBROKEN watching my children grieve. I also feel awful that my 2 oldest children couldn't say goodbye to her, as they are in another province for a funeral. My 16 yr old boy had the closest relationship with Babe and he won't be home until tomorrow. I really wish I could have had her wait for him and I feel so awful that I couldn't.
My 11 yr old was throwing up last night and we are home from school and work today. I don't know if he has a bug or is just so overwhelmed with grief that he's made himself physically ill. As I type this I can hear him downstairs crying over her.
I need to stop crying. I need to be strong for my children. I just keep looking over at the couch and expect to see her sitting there.
My husband doesn't understand. And for that I'm feeling anger towards him. Like, I don't want to hear about how this horse turns or what hockey player was cut from the team... I just want to grieve my beautiful girl's passing and would give anything to wrap my arms around her again.
My 12 and 11 yr old held her while the vet gave her the injection. My husband sat on a chair in the corner of the room. It was so hard to leave her. She went so fast. The vet told us that her gums were very pale and her legs were cold. Her ciculation was already slowing before we brought her in. She couldn't walk or stand, overnight. She told us it was just a matter of time. I KNOW I made the right decision but oh, how I wish we could have had just a little more time.
Please tell me this gets better :(
Registered: 1508175037 Posts: 13
I am so sorry for your loss. Babe was very lucky to have been rescued by you, and what a long life! Amazing.
I loss my 11 year old Basset Hound very suddenly - virtually overnight we went from a playing dog, to a liver tumor diagnosis, to having to put her down. There is nothing like this pain - it is indescribable. Not everyone can relate to it, which makes it more difficult. Give yourself time. Although I also felt the need to be strong for my daughter, it's also important that they see you grieve, and see that you shared the same amount of love for Babe as they did. Take care of yourself. The spontaneous crying will diminish with time, especially if you make yourself busy. It has been 2 1/2 weeks for me and I still cannot stop the tears when I see her collar, or see a picture. But now I'm able to remember the good times as well. They are our children. When they leave us they take a little bit of our hearts with them. We are forever changed by the loss, but also forever changed for the good by our wonderful lives with them. I wouldn't trade that for the world. Take care -
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So sorry to hear about Babe's passing! Sounds like she was loved very much 💖 She was fortunate by you rescuing her and giving her a loving home and heart!
I've been hearing about pets don't really want to let their "owners" see them struggling/dying. I wonder if that's why she left when she did.. I understand you feel awful about your 2 oldest couldn't say goodbye but I hope you don't blame yourself! I hope your 11 years old doing better with throwing up and I wish your husband could be more support for you. Maybe he just either hiding his feelings or coping differently? I do understand how frustrating it could be when loved ones don't understand this heart wrecking pain. Yes, generally it gets "better" with time. It has been 3 month for me, and I was able to function normal after awhile. I still miss much baby boy so much and I know my life don't be the same without him. Hugs and blessings to you and your family 🌷
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Dearest Babe's mom,
I am truly sorry for your heart ache and pain. When we are given the love our Fur Babies lavish on us and then it's gone, it's one of the most heart wrenching times of out lives. The pain does lessen some what but the loneliness is always there. It's been 7 weeks since I had my heart torn out, I still cry, I still have my bad days but I have good days too. You will be better in time and have better days. There will always be a whole in your heart where you shared Babe's love. In time you will remember more good times you both shared rather than the bad times. Babe was very lucky to have shared her life with you. Don't worry about your husband, grieve all you need, cry and share Babe's life stories with your children and people who can relate to you loss. My husband seems to have moved past Termy being gone so I go somewhere by myself and cry or just talk to Termy. We need our time to accept life is different now but you are never alone. All of here have experienced the exact same pain you are coping with now. Come often and read or write. Love and doggie hugs Termy's mom