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Arlene_C

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I love Christmas, I always look forward to so many things about it. One of the main things was always my kitties sitting in the windows when we could open them, they loooved the cool air and I would always tell them.."cold fronts coming! I know you love the windows open!" And they both would get into such "trouble" under and with the tree. But they loooved when the tree was up and the lights were on, and they'd sleep under it almost every night during the holidays. I lost them both this year first in August, then my other in September, some of you here may know my story of Kit Kat and Mina, Kit Kat being the oldest died first-blood clots all over his body, then Mina, I truly believe she grieved him and stopped eating and drinking and went into kidney failure, VERY rapidly, she wasn't the same after he died. 
 I keep getting excited like I normally do for Christmas and as soon as I do, I immediately get sad because I know they're not here. I looked forward to another Christmas with them. They had their own stocking and always nosed around all the wrapping paper as we opened gifts. I'm just so sad they're not here. It's funny because we had Kit Kat for 15 years and Mina for 11 years, and I barely remember what life was before they arrived in our lives. The house still feels so incomplete and every year I looked forward to their antics during the holidays. They were such an integral part of our every day life and I still have a hard time adjusting to the fact that they're just not here any more.
I feel like so bad. Does anyone else feel similar to this as far as the holidays are concerned?? Sometimes I feel like I should be over it by now but I just miss them so much. I looked forward to so many more memories. I give my 2 dogs all the love I can because I know I still have to go through this 2 more times eventually. I'm just so sad.
HeartBroken12

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So sorry for your losses Arlene_C ⚘
Not sure why you think that you should be over it by now.?
It takes time and it's still so recent for you. 
To answer your question, yes there are others that concerned about the holidays coming up, certainly including me. There's even a post about it on this forum and some good replies to it. I've noticed you replied to it as well, and I liked your positive thinking about it.
I always looked forward to the whole decoration, gift wrapping and opening, getting a tree and so on. My baby boy used to lie under the tree, either by his gifts (even tho they were wrapped) or if I didn't put them under yet, then he picked any gift and put his head on it and just patiently waited. When he got the ok to open them or when we started, he unwrapped those so gently with his teeth and paws holding the gift. We even let him help us open ours, because he loved it so much and he was so crazily adorable. I lost him in August too, and this year I'm so not looking forward to Christmas. Most likely I won't even get a tree and not interested decorating either. Possibly no gifts either. 
"Firefighter" on that other post had a good reply tho, saying something like his babyboy loved the decor and lights, so maybe that's the reason to continue. That made me think maybe I should still decorate outside for him so he could "see it" from Heaven.... but certainly not wanting to buy a tree. We'll see.
I hope you can still try to enjoy this Holiday specially since you can still get excited about it, and still have your doggies to love them. I know it won't be the same, but I like your comment on that recent post where you say, "you hope we can make the best season we can considering, our beloved pets would have wanted that". 
Stay strong and blessings to you 💟
HeartBroken12

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So sorry for your losses Arlene_C ⚘
Not sure why you think that you should be over it by now.?
It takes time and it's still so recent for you. 
To answer your question, yes there are others that concerned about the holidays coming up, certainly including me. There's even a post about it on this forum and some good replies to it. I've noticed you replied to it as well, and I liked your positive thinking about it.
I always looked forward to the whole decoration, gift wrapping and opening, getting a tree and so on. My baby boy used to lie under the tree, either by his gifts (even tho they were wrapped) or if I didn't put them under yet, then he picked any gift and put his head on it and just patiently waited. When he got the ok to open them or when we started, he unwrapped those so gently with his teeth and paws holding the gift. We even let him help us open ours, because he loved it so much and he was so crazily adorable. I lost him in August too, and this year I'm so not looking forward to Christmas. Most likely I won't even get a tree and not interested decorating either. Possibly no gifts either. 
"Firefighter" on that other post had a good reply tho, saying something like his babyboy loved the decor and lights, so maybe that's the reason to continue. That made me think maybe I should still decorate outside for him so he could "see it" from Heaven.... but certainly not wanting to buy a tree. We'll see.
I hope you can still try to enjoy this Holiday specially since you can still get excited about it, and still have your doggies to love them. I know it won't be the same, but I like your comment on that recent post where you say, "you hope we can still make the best holiday season considering, our beloved pets would have wanted that".
Stay strong and blessings to you ⚘
misscath007

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Sorry for the loss of your babies. I think it's very natural to feel more grief during the holidays when you have lost a furbaby. I lost my little dachshund in February of this year and I still miss him. I used to dress him up in his holiday sweater and antlers and will miss seeing him in his little outfit. I adopted a kitten a couple of months ago and he gives me great joy but I still miss my little one. I also miss my parents very much this time of year.
Arlene_C

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HeartBroken12 and misscath007 I am truly sorry for both of your losses as well. And for the loss of your parents misscath007  :(
I'm not sure why I sometimes feel like I  should be over it-I think I may just tell myself that sometimes to try and get through the pain? This has been the first loss of any kind for me and it hit with a force. I'm going through some pictures today to have put on Christmas ornaments. I think that will be nice. May everyone here heal soon. Big Hugs
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 
HeartBroken12

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Thank you Arlene C 🌷
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