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MysweetMax

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It happened so fast. It’s just a cold they said
Medication for 2-4 weeks. It’s not getting better go to another vet... it’s an aggressive in his lungs. He was gone in less than a week. My baby
I don’t know how to live without him
amandap4646

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I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Max. I understand exactly how you feel. The same happened to my baby Molly, just a cold they kept saying and within 5 days she was gone.

This was 4 weeks ago and my world has fallen apart.  I have not had a single day without crying and she is in my thoughts all the time. I try to think of the good times however it just makes me really sad because I know I wont get anymore of those moments with her. I have experienced so many emotions over the last month, Guilt - was it my fault?, should I have got a second opinion sooner?. Anger - why did the vets get it wrong?. Why don't my family understand that she was not "just a dog"?. Depression - there have been days I have just wanted to curl up in bed and stop breathing, but our bodies just keep functioning.

This forum has helped as everyone on here is going through the same thing.

It is true what they say, it does get a little bit easier with time however the feeling of loss never goes away. I still cry and feel really sad and empty but it is not as raw as the first week. I can feel fine one minute and breakdown in tears the next. We all grieve differently so don't let anybody tell you how it should be done.

When you feel up to it, I would love to hear more about your Max and the special times you had together.

R.I.P Max

Amanda







BrooklynDogMom

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I would also love to hear about your sweet Max.
Grieving feels bad, but it's a good thing to do.  And it's the right thing to do after suffering such a profound loss.  Let yourself feel all those emotions. 
We are here for you. <3

MysweetMax

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Thank you both so much. My Max was perfect . From the day I brought him home from the shelter. He loved all of us. He loves everyone he met, person, dog, cat, child uounname it. There was nothing he didn’t love. And oh boy did he live food.
He got sick with a cough. I brought him to the vet, wegot medication, they said it was pneumonia. 2 weeks on meds he only got worse, 2 more weeks & cheat x-rays plus an ultra sound. Again they say it’s pneumonia. More medication. He fights me every day to take his meds & refuses to eat for me. I’m so upset & I got mad at him :-(. He still isn’t better. I bring him to a specialty vet with all his records. It’s an aggressive lung cancer. 5 days later he’s dead in my arms
I failed my baby, I didn’t bring him to the proper vet to get him the help he needed. I wait s too long, I got mad at him for fighting to take him medication. I called him stubborn & to not be a brat.

I miss my baby so much. I don’t know if he knows how much I love him & miss him.
All I want is to be with him every day and every moment.

I hate my life without him .

I hate everything I did & didn’t do for him.


My heart is so broken & empty 😢
amandap4646

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Please don't feel guilty. Your Max knew how much you loved him and that you did everything in your power to fix him. He loved you as much as you love him and it sounds like you gave him a wonderful life. 

It was the cancer that took him, it is not your fault. It was the same for my Molly and I blamed myself for some time because I felt like I should have tried harder. In the end I have come to realize that I could not have done anymore and the outcome was inevitable. We blame ourselves, we blame the vets, we focus on the bad times - it is all part of the natural grieving process.

Your Max sounds like such a sweetie and I know that you are finding it really hard to live without him. Please try and think of the good times that you shared with him and know that you did the best you could.

Take care and we are here for you
BrooklynDogMom

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Aww, Max sounds like such a loving guy! Thank you for sharing his story with us.
I lost my dog Bella to an aggressive cancer as well.  There's really nothing you can do in that situation, so try not to be hard on yourself.  I went through a lot of the struggles you did, I was so frustrated with her when she refused to take her medicine and eat.  I would cry and yell and generally embarrass myself in front of my sweet dog who just felt like poop.  You just try so hard and you feel bad for being frustrated, but you know they MUST take that medicine and eat if they want a chance to stay alive.  Bella passed away about 3 weeks after I got her cancer diagnosis.  I did take her to an oncologist who laid out a couple (expensive) options in terms of medicine/chemo, but she was very realistic about the fact that there was no known cure for Bella's type of cancer.  She ended up going downhill so fast there was no point in trying the cancer drugs.  I tell you this so that you can think about given how aggressive Max's cancer was and how fast it took him that there was probably literally nothing that could save him at that point.  You did everything you could, my friend!  Max was lucky you rescued him and loved him like family.

MysweetMax

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Max was adopted from NY ACC Staten Island.
The day I saw him he looked into my soul and became part of me. The love I have for him is so strong . I would have done anything to save him & I would do anything to be with him now.
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