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Hello I am so happy to find a support board. I have taken the loss of my cat very badly. Mainly because she was my moms cat who passed in 2011. She was the last piece I clung to missing her. I feel awful because like my mom she passed away at half life. She was almost 11 years old. It all started about 3 weeks ago I noticed she was sleeping in the sink, drinking lots of water, losing weight and had a strong urinary odor. I took her to the vet last week thinking it was a U.T.I or something. She was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism. It took a week to get the meds going but just when I was about to start treatment I noticed 2 days ago she looked terrible and was rapidly breathing. I couldn't get her into the vet that prescribed treatment in time so last night I took her to an emergency vet hospital. They told me she was having heart failure. We could have attempted treating it but there were no guarantees and she was drowning in fluid that was around her heart. I am so confused because I received so much conflicting information from too many different vets. 
     The one that prescribed the meds said it could be fatal if untreated too long but by the time symptoms appeared it seems it was already too late. The emergency vet said it may have been a separate occurrence from the recent diagnosis. She may have even had a cancerous tumor on her heart. My children ages 5 and 8 were with me when they told us it was recommended we euthanized her. I made the terrible decision. I also felt like I neglected and abandoned her and she was so good to me and loyal and layed on me all day purring. She followed me everywhere. I am experiencing all the grief symptoms I have with people I have lost. I think also it came on so sudden. She was pretty active and healthy up until a few weeks ago.
    Another thing I am struggling with also is we got a new dog in July who stalked her and shewed her away from me but I did my best to make time for her. I just hope it didn't stress her condition out more. Another thing bothering me is a year ago I took her to another vet that said her thyroid levels were high but they never recommended treatment. I wish they had because this cat was so special and perfect for me and I have had many cats this is the best one I have ever had. We had an incredible bond. I would have done everything to prolong her life. Its like a really cruel lesson or something. I know she did not want to part with me. I have been crying a day straight. I have had many pets but nothing has effected me as the loss of this one. Thank you for listening. It would help to hear from people who have also experienced hyperthyroidism in cats even though I am still pretty confused. :(

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I am so sorry for your loss. Great big hugs to you.

We love our animals and we would make their lives perfect if we could. And we are responsible for them. But we are not all knowing or all powerful. We can only do the best we can, with the information and resources that we have; and we can love them. It sounds to me like you did both of these things.

If you stay on the board long enough, you will see that every person who has lost a precious animal is besieged by self-doubt and guilt. They wonder if they should have known something, or should have done something else. It is the path we all walk here. Remember, too, that vets are not perfect either, even the ones that are completely dedicated to animals. All we can ask of them is that they do the best they can. It is hard to take care of patients who can't talk.

Hang in there. This is a rough road. Try to love yourself and be gentle with yourself as you would be with a friend in the same situation.

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Thank you for your kind words!
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