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I lost my best friend Sprinkles and I can’t stop thinking/crying/hurting. She was only six and helped me through the worst years of my life. I miss her so much. I’m supposed to be a big tough man but I’m totally lost How can something hurt this much
Registered: 1568770841 Posts: 1
OMG. How long has it been? I'm so sad for you. It takes time. Just know that you are in my prayers Bill. I'm glad I can respond to others and be a comfort. Please see my post for my story. Pugmomma. Try to keep your mind busy. It's ok to grieve. It's going to hurt less and less as the days go by. God Bless you. ❤️🙏🏼🙋🏻
Registered: 1564945101 Posts: 54
BadBill, Im so sorry for your loss and I understand the depth of your pain. It is such a shock to the system and right now you are in shock. you may feel this ways for some time, I know i was in shock for a month. i know nothing i can say will measure up to the bond you share with Sprinkles. and grief unfortunately offers no instructions or timetable. I will be honest it is not easy, but I do know you will get through it. please continue to come here or the chat room, as we all understand these feelings and want to offer some support during the difficult time. be gentle with yourself, go at your own pace, we all grieve differently, so listen to your heart and do what brings you comfort. sending lightness and ease, Mossimo's mom - anastacia
Registered: 1529423348 Posts: 167
I'm supposed to be a (not so) big tough man too, but when I put down my cat Karma in Dec 2017, I sobbed and bawled like a baby at the vets clinic, and in the public area outside for a long time. I couldn't even care what people would think of this old guy behaving so pathetically. Following that, I was even more mortified to find myself having full blown sobbing fits multiple times a day, every single day for more than a year. I thought many times to myself that a man shouldn't be such a cry baby, but that's how it rolled for me. If I hadn't found this site, I would have concluded I was going insane. Even now, I'm still prone to breaking down frequently. I never knew I could be affected in such a way - it's been a real eye opener. But like everyone else, I just wanted my cat back so desperately and missed her so much. And that real sadness as we slowly realise that they're gone, and those perfect moments we had were never coming back. That's a real heart breaker right there...
Registered: 1568424074 Posts: 6
Regardless of our gender we are all human and capable of love for humans and animals alike. The feelings you are experiencing for the loss of your pets are natural especially when there are bonds in place that are unlike any other relationships you have encountered in your life.
For some of us our pets have been through the most trying years in our lives. They love us unconditionally and there are no judgements, opinions or criticism, just love. Losing that unconditional love is heartbreaking and devastating. I understand what that is like as I also have just lost my little girl and she was with me through some of the worst things I have encountered in the last 11 years. As GoldenMom reminded me we need to be gentle with ourselves and take whatever time we need to grieve and heal. The pain would be no different if it were a human that was close to us, the grief would still be felt. My heart goes out to you all that are suffering a loss. As painful as it is today at some point when you are ready it will get a little easier to accept. The memories will always be with you and the love you had for each other will remain in your heart. Take care of yourself. Big hugs to all.