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My Best Friend, Susan, lost her Boxer whose name is "Bedford" on Thursday, June 12. Bedford was only 4 years old and was so special. She ate a corn cob and got very ill. The vet did surgery and all hopes were high for her. She and her husband went to visit Bedford hoping to bring her home and she took a turn for the worse. She passed away in 15 minutes. Susan is beside herself with grief and I understand because I've been there. IT HURTS SO BADLY!She is grieving and thinks it is her fault because Bedford got to the corn cob. I am grieving for Susan and Bedford. Bedford was the most special spirited pet and so dearly loved. Please send Susan some messages (thru me) so she will know that she is not alone. Please don't let her think it is her fault.
Thank you so very much. Donna
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I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved girl, Bedford. It is so hard to lose one so dear to us, especially in such an unexpected way and at such a young age. My heart goes out to you. Oh Susan, I know that you are blaming yourself at this point, but please don't! There is no way for us to protect our babies from every danger, or to prevent every accident from happening. Sometimes things just happen, in spite of our great care. My dog Max, who passed away in December, once got a starfish out of a basket and ate it! I actually had to pump his stomach at home with a turkey baster immediately! If I had not known right away that he ate it and called the ER vet, it would have gone through his system and caused great damage. I was just lucky because I was actually right there when he did it...and it STILL happened! My point is that, just as with children, our fur children can be right there in front of us and still have an accident. The guilt that so many of us feel for "not having done enough", or not doing it quick enough, or having done the "wrong thing" can be devastating and can complicate our grief. Please try to be kind to yourself. You were a wonderful parent and loved your girl so very much! She knew that, and her life was so happy because of it! You are in my thoughts and prayers, as is your sweet Bedford. Godspeed, dear Bedford. I know that you have been welcomed by all of our angels at the Rainbow Bridge! Sending warm hugs and healing thoughts, MaxsMom
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I understand what you are going through. The loss of a beloved pet is one of the hardest things a pet owner can endure. The grief cuts so deep that we all think "if only I didn't" or "if only I did" but it all comes down to this - did you love your Bedford, did she know you loved her? Unfortunately, we can't know everything there is to know and can't see everything there is to see and can't be everywhere there is to be. If only we could, life would sure be so different for all of us, our pets and also our human families. Be kind to yourself if for no other reason for Bedford. Bedford would not want you to blame yourself for something that wasn't your fault. As soon as you realized there was a problem you went for help. Unfortunately that is the only thing you could do. I know how badly you hurt right now, tomorrow it will be 3 weeks that I had to take my Comet (Golden Retriever) to be PTS. Not because I wanted to but because I loved her so much that I couldn't watch her for another day lay in front of me dying. The guilt eats me up at times and I also hope she understood that I did everything I could for her as I am sure that you did too. Please allow yourself time to grieve and please don't blame yourself for something that was out of your control. If you had all night I could let you know of all the things that I thought I did or didn't do but that doesn't change anything. Comet knew that I loved her because I always told her "Mommy loves you tooooooo much" What I'm trying to say is that I am truly sorry that you must endure this heartbreaking pain. You are in my thoughts and I hope that you can soon realize that you were a wonderful Mommy to your Bedford and she loved you very much. I know that you have a great friend in Donna and she is trying to help you so please let her. If you feel up to it, come to this site and post because there are alot of people here that have been through similar feelings and everyone understands the pain. I find comfort here with people that feel the same way about their beloved pets as I do for my Comet. All my thoughts are with you and I hope you find comfort soon. Margaret
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Donna, you are a TRUE FRIEND. Bless you.
Dearest Susan, My heart was aching as I read what happened to your beloved and precious girl, Bedford. I can only imagine how terrible your pain must be. I am so very sorry for your loss. If there was anyway I could somehow lessen your pain with words or a deed, I would do it in a heartbeat. I will send up many prayers for you and your girl. Please do NOT blame yourself. I have been reading posts on this board for many months now and I can tell you terrible accidents happen to very vigilant furparents and their beloved furbabies. There is just no rhyme or reason; these tragedies occur, and in one moment, lives are changed forever. When my little minpin was two years old he ate half a broken light bulb. He miraculously survived with no intervention (when I called the vet at 2 AM in tears to report what happened, he told me his three year old son had done the exact same thing two weeks earlier and was fine). I felt like the worst mother in the world for a while. Then, a year later, when a thoughtless ex-boyfriend left a gate open, my beloved Betsy got out and was hit by a car. She also survived after major chest surgery and intensive care for a week. Again, I blamed myself. Why hadn't I checked the gate? I am sharing these events with you because I want you to know that even when we are careful, things happen. I just wish, oh, how I wish, the results would have been that your sweet girl survived. You did everything you could have done. You took her to the vet. And, you LOVED her with the whole of your heart and soul. Bedford knows your heart. She loves you still. Eventually, you will feel her boundless, loving spirit surrounding you and your husband. May beautiful memories of her comfort you both as you mourn. This is a wonderful, supportive website. If it will help you, please come tell us about Bedford. We will be here for you. Sending hugs, Melissa Betsy's forever mom