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I’ve been watching my Granddog for a week for my daughter. Tonight I didn’t pay enough attention while we were outside with the dogs and my Brody ran down our drive way and onto the main road where he was hit by a car and killed. I cannot express the amount of guilt I feel for his death. He was my daughters baby and now he is gone and she and her husband are devastated. It’s all my fault. I was too relaxed outside and didn’t pay enough attention. I took for granted that he had been to my house so many times and he was part of our family dog pack. We have 7 dogs and he fit right in. No other dog left with him. He hdd never run off before and I didn’t think he would. But he did and now he’s dead. I was too relaxed.....too comfortable and I didn’t pay close enough attention and make sure he was right by me. It’s all my fault and I don’t know what to do. I feel like a horrible and untrustworthy Grandma. I’m worried they won’t trust me in tv e future d we’d hen they have babies. I feel so horrible ...... so so very horrible and I can’t stop crying.

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I am so very sorry. I know how heartbreaking this is and I wish I could say something to heal your pain. We all tend to blame ourselves but the one thing to remember is that this was an accident. You did not do anything to deliberately cause him harm, you never would. Your daughter loves you and naturally she is grieving but I am sure she realizes it could have happened if Brody had been with her. Please be gentle with yourself, allow yourself to grieve. Your daughter needs someone strong to help her through this terrible time and I feel sure you will be able to help each other heal. Again I am so sorry.

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Your guilt is natural, but please keep in mind that you should not 'beat yourself up'.  As you state, he'd been to your home many times, you have 7 others dogs, and none of them had ever behaved in this way, or run off into the street before.

It is tragic, but the truth is full of unpredictables.  Accidents do happen.  

You could also look at this way...while it is awful that the dog has died, he is not suffering.  Imagine how much worse you might feel, had the dog survived a horrific accident, and then had to undergo multiple surgeries, a long recovery, perhaps a leg amputation, etc?  

Please be good to yourself at this time...and forgiving.  Accidents sometimes happen.  Try to eliminate any other stressors in your life right now, to help you cope with this tragedy.  Take it easy. Go for some nice long walks in nature.

Is the family planning to have Brody cremated...create some type of a 'memorial' for him?  That could also help with the healing process....

Big hug to you!

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My daughter is coming to pick up her baby in just a couple of hours. My son in law doesn’t want to come into the house. I’m really struggling with the guilt of him dying on my watch. I know it will take time for all of us to grieve.
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