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Charlish

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Hi guys,

I lost my gorgeous cat Posy last week. She had just turned 14 and was diagnosed with an incredibly aggressive tumour on her face. Within a month she was gone. I thought I’d feel relieved when she went because she wouldn’t be in pain anymore but instead I had an incredibly powerful panic attack. My therapist told me that my anxiety was actually a physical manifestation of my grief. Has anyone else had that? Before this I hadn’t had a panic attack in 2 years. I feel in back to square one in my recovery from anxiety.

My bond with Posy was so strong. We just liked sitting with each other. The house is so empty. Her fur is everywhere. A friend just said ‘have you thought about just getting another kitten?’. Nothing can replace Posy. She was unique. People keep telling me this will get better but I can’t see it happening. I reached out to the dad of Esther the Wonderpig who gave me the link for this page. I’m trying my hardest to be strong but it’s a real battle.
pb313

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Charlish,
I am so very sorry for your loss. Posy will never be replaced. People don’t know what to say when we loss a person in our lives much less a pet. I lost my pup, Raider, a week ago and I naturally knew who to talk to because I know who understand my love for him. Grief is a normal process. Remember process not event. It may come is crashing waves one time and wash up up on your feet as a happy memory another. If the anxiety continues, you may want to see the dr again. Just be honest with yourself and the sr if need be. We are here for you.
Paula - Raider’s mom
Charlish

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Thanks Paula. I’m so sorry about Raider. I wish people would treat us like if a human had died. I loved her more than I’d ever loved a human. The anxiety is just so intense. I could cope with the sadness but the anxiety as an added extra has just knocked me right over.
nnjnk3

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Charlish,

I'm so very sorry to hear about your dear Posy.  I understand how you are feeling..... I lost my sweet girl Emma last Thursday.  I'm a mess.......  

You have to grieve in your own way and in your own time.  It's so very hard coming across all of the constant reminders in my house too.  I tried to put as many things away as I could, only because they were making me so sad.....but regardless of the material things I put away, there's still the regular routine that I miss.  I just miss her little soul.  Her little girl meows.....I always thought she sounded just like a girl with her soft meow....  Just sitting with her, or watching her run and play outside.  I miss everything about her.  Paula is right, they cannot be replaced but they can live on forever in your heart and in your precious memories.  

You have a lot of support here.  We have all lost and we need to talk about our fur babies and try to cope as best as we can.  This will be my third time here.  I lost my dear girl Socks a few years back and my sweet boy Toby in 2017.  It helps me so much to talk about them and to help others too.  I've learned my heart never really recovers, I just learn to cope as time goes on.  It doesn't mean I miss them any less, I just learn to cope.....

I'm praying for your hurting heart!

Paula, I'm so sorry about your dear Raider.......   I'm praying for your hurting heart too. I love how you described grief with waves, I've never thought about it that way, but it's so very true!

Take care.

Nichole Emma's momma =^..^=               
Joe_L2

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Charlish,

You are not alone. I'm feeling the same way. I lost my beautiful little Baby Bunny last Friday and I'm a mess. I'm walking around in a daze and I don't care about anything. She was a runaway and arrived unexpectedly and she left me unexpectedly as she went into one of the many holes she dug under our back porch to pass. I have so many memories of her, too and it hurts. Without my meds, I'm not sure where I'd be.

You grieve in your own time, but don't let the love that Posy gave you not be shared with another cat. I thought they waited longer, but my brother wrote his condolences to me and said that he, his wife and teenage kids adopted another Golden Retriever only one month after their first passed away. I'm sure it helped them heal faster. I'm highly considering another beautiful bunny sometime soon and continue the love that Baby Bunny blessed me with. I miss her so much as I'm crying right now. 

And don't let anyone, tell you not to cry or express yourself. Try and also have a physical person nearby for help, if possible. I went to a next door neighbor who consoled me as I cried on her shoulder. And if not, there are plenty of us who are willing to extend that shoulder.

Write anytime.

Baby Bunny's Big Brother, Joe
Joe_L2

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Paula - Raider’s mom,

How are you so seemingly strong for losing Raider just a week ago? I'm a mess and walking around in a daze. I'm crying right now. I miss my little bunny so much.


Baby Bunny's Big Brother, Joe
pb313

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Joe,
I am so very sorry. I have a friend who had bunnies and she loved them all but one in particular really had her heart. Our babies are our babies no matter what anyone else thinks or understands. You have every right to be sad.
As far as being strong, it is a total sham sometimes. I thought I heard his tags last night or early this morning. Today was one week. I do take solice in him not suffering a long drawn out illness.
We will always love them.

Hugs,
Paula - Raider’s mom
Joe_L2

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Paula, Raider’s mom,

Thank you for your comforting response. I wish there was a pill to take all of our pain away, but we need to know that time or adopting another loved one will lessen our emptiness where we can at least function without crying.

This a pain that I only experienced with a close cousin who died by a DUI driver back in 1987. It's a loss that can't be explained and is unbearable especially while I'm at home with all of Baby Bunny's reminders. I got out for the first time tonight since before last Friday. It was only twenty minutes, I didn't cry, but I dreaded going coming back to all the great memories that have now become too painful to recall without crying.

I also remember hearing the tags of our family dog after she passed in August of 1990. It was so 
realistic that I actually got up from where I was to see what the sound actually was. But, it was just in my head.

May all of us who are in pain from a loss, have at least a moment today where we can smile or at least feel whole again.

Thank you, Paula.


Baby Bunny's Big Brother, Joe
eddiesmommy

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I lost my dog yesterday and I am having such bad anxiety I can't keep my feet still. I feel like I can't breathe. I am so sorry that you're feeling this way too. I am looking into a therapist and hope that it will help. You're doing the right thing. Take your time getting another animal - there's no rush. Sending peace your way.
skmk

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Charlish and eddiesmommy,. I too have that terrible
anxiety. I just shake all the time. It's an awful feeling. My sweet Dickens passed away on July 11.
The grief is intense and it's so hard to function. I'm seeing a doctor for meds but they don't help much.

Joe I too go out only for short periods of time because I'm afraid I'll burst into tears.

I'm so sorry for all your losses. There is so much suffering.
Bless you all,
Susan
Joe_L2

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Hang-in there, Susan.

I force myself not to think of my loss. Otherwise, it hurts too much. I had to stop visiting this site, because all I do is cry when I start writing, which I'm doing again. At first it was comforting knowing that others were feeling the same emotional pain, like myself. But, I had to get away from it, so not to upset myself. My doctor prescribed meds, too and I'm glad I take them.

Unfortunately along with my brother, I care for our mother with dementia, so it's a "fortunate" depressing distraction from my loss. I'm actually having a more difficult time without my bunny than I am with my mother's current condition.

Distractions are good, especially when grieving. So, you do need to get away from the memories and reminders for a little while each day, increasing the time until you feel better. 

Susan, it'll be tough, but you'll get better.


Joe
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