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Brittd

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Four days ago my beautiful budgie, Tiki, passed away. He was only five years old and I am utterly heartbroken. I have no closure either.
My housemates have a golden retriever who is lovely with Tiki and very gentle. However, I never let him out of his cage when the dog is inside the house. My housemates then adopted a rescue greyhound who had behavior issues (abandonment, food, etc.) She was improving day by day and never did anything more than glance at Tiki. I went out Friday afternoon for two hours and was naive in leaving the dogs inside the house with my bird (in his cage) and no one else home. I had done so before for 15 minutes up to an hour. I guess I got too comfortable and thought that everyone was getting along well. I received a text message those hours later from my housemate who had come home saying that Tiki’s cage had been knocked over, the lid/roof had been removed (hard to do) and that Tiki is nowhere in sight. All that is left are feathers in his cage. I come home and look everywhere in the house but there is no sign of my baby. It is now highly probable that one or both of the dogs knocked the cage and then attacked, killed and ate my precious boy. There was no little body so I couldn’t even process the reality or hold a funeral. I have been staying at my boyfriend’s house for the moment as it is too painful to be at home with the dogs as they mostly kept inside. My housemates have decided to move out as they feel terrible about what happened and will be taking the dogs with them. I’m still hurting and every day since has been a struggle. I just wanted to reach out for advice or support because I’ve never experienced a pet’s death quite like this and I’m overcome with both grief and guilt.
ItWillTakeTime

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I am so very sorry that you are going through this. It is not your fault. You certainly would not have left Tiki if you had any idea that he would be in danger. But we cannot foresee and control everything; and that is hard, when we love so much. 

When we love our animals so much, we always blame ourselves, no matter what happens. You will see this if you stay on this board and read other peoples' stories. Even those who had animals that passed in their sleep feel guilty that they did not know something was wrong and get them to the vet; or, if they knew something was wrong, that they could not figure out how to cure them. The truth is that our animals have shorter missions than we do; and to love them is to agree to be left behind by them.

Please put the guilt down. Grief is hard enough without it. 

Big hugs to you.
Brittd

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ItWillTakeTime - thank you for your reply and sharing your words of wisdom. Your advice is really appreciated and I can see myself referring back to it in times of need.
babydaisy

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Brittd

My heart goes out to you.
I am so sorry to hear about your lovely Tiki.

Budgie are such sweet birds, I had them as a child & loved them.

Please don't feel guilty about what happened as you were not to blame. You were not to know that the cage would be knocked over..

Whatever happens to our beloved babies, whether they become ill, go missing, or whether we have to say goodbye, we always blame ourselves, myself included! I lost my Chihuahua 'Daisy" in August! We cannot predict or control what happens to them, we can only do our best & I know how very much you loved & cared for your Tiki...You were a loving owner clearly!

Guilt is a big part of the grieving process & most people experience this emotion, it is very common so please don't beat yourself up..

I love birds as I love all animals and would really like to hear more about Tiki whenever you are ready to post.

You are in my thoughts

Sending you love & light

Daisy's mummy..
Brittd

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Daisy's mummy - thank you for taking the time to reply to my post. The grief is getting slightly better each day but it's not easy. I find that the loneliness of not having a pet around is one of the hardest parts. You come across as a very kind person and your advice has lifted a little bit of the weight on my chest. Thank you x
babydaisy

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brittd

I am happy that you are feeling a little better & that my reply uplifted you a little!

The loneliness is one of the most difficult parts I agree, we are so used to them being there...

It takes time for the heart to heal, & your lovely Tiki will always be in your heart forever..

God bless.

Daisy's mummy
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