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Louie was our 17 year old boy. He was a black toy poodle but turned grey as he got older. He was blind for the last year and because of an infection in his mouth he had all his teeth removed and that was about 4 years ago. I carried him around all the time because that is what you do for love. Funny thing was he could always find his food and water bowls. About 6 months ago Louie started having seizures. The vet said it was probably from small brain bleeds caused by his age and he said to just monitor them. They weren’t a regular thing and he probably averaged 1 per month. Early one morning 8 weeks ago Louie had a bad seizure which left him dazed and lethargic. I called the vet who said to bring him in in the afternoon. Louie went to sleep on my lap for a couple of hours and was still dopey when he awoke. He wasn’t interested in any food or water so I took him outside to go to the toilet. When I went to bring him back inside he was standing there like he was in a trance. When I picked him up in my arms he had another seizure. My husband and I took him to the vet and we were told he was no good and that there was nothing he could do for him. The vet then suggested he should be put to sleep. We both said that if that was what needed to be done then that would be okay. The vet then took him out of my arms and proceeded to take him into the surgery. We had no time to say a decent goodbye to our old mate and I just wish I had another 10 minutes to spend with him. My grief is so overwhelming even 8 weeks later. I keep seeing him everywhere I look and have even had the odd dream where the vet says he was wrong and I can take him home. Please tell me time will help heal the wretchedness that I’m feeling. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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Hello. Losing a loved one even one of the fury cartagory is one of the toughest things to deal with while you are on planet earth, and time will be the true healer of wounds of the heart. However you can assist that process if you lean on family and friends, and other pets if you have them. Also don't push out memories even if they make you cry, and at first they most certainly will, however it's those great memories that will help you a whole lot in the long run. It also helps to get out and try some different things in life for some diversion.
I lost my Rockie(African Grey Parrot) after having Rockie around for 33 years. We were very tight to say the least. Rockie talked, played many games, some of them involving flying, and we always shared supper and breakfast. On 1/3/2016 Rockie passed away in my lap after five hours, the sparkle in Rockie's eyes going out. I'm an old USMC Vietnam Combat Veteran and I cried my eyes out. Well I hope this helps, but it ain't no easy road, least you had many great years together and remember your best bud wouldn't want you to be sad. CG13.
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Oh yes...time will heal the wretchedness that you are feeling. Right now things seem hopeless as you progress through your grief. The disturbing feelings are a sign you are grieving. Even though you have no hope, in the days, weeks, months and years ahead, the pain will ease. You will not feel this way forever. Though it may seem like it, your pain is not a permanent affliction.