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Jonesy

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To the Dogmommy hope this gets to you this time about my Pall Ben. Like I said it’s been almost a year and some days are ok but as the day he passed come up it is getting so hard. I visit his grave I have out back where I put him. This was where he like to lie under the trees while I cut the grass. So I thought this would be the place he would like. I’ve thought of getting another pup but don’t know yet. My wife ask me today if I was going to look at my cousins labs when they are born. I’m thinking not oh I love labs we use to breed them. Just don’t know. They say go help at a Humane Society or foster I don’t think I could do that write now. Hope I’m not bothering you with all this
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Of course you are not bothering me. Anniversaries, especially the first one, are so dreadfully hard. Unfortunately I know how you feel. As the anniversary dates start to approach I start getting more and more upset and heartsick every day just dreading what's coming. I am very relieved the next day after the awful anniversary day that is over. I am so dreadfully sorry that that heartbreaking anniversary is approaching for you : (

That is really nice that you have his earthly cocoon in your yard where he used to like to lie down while you cut the grass and that you can go out and visit.
 
Labs are truly wonderful dogs as you know since you used to breed them but since you are "Boxerized" I think that is what you should get in the future when you are ready. We've had all sorts of truly wonderful dogs that I have loved with my whole heart--Great Danes, Dobermans, German Shepherds, a Belgium Shepherd, a Pomeranian, Chihuahuas, Poodles, a Shih Tzu, a Chesapeake Bay Retriever, and a Weimaraner. I wouldn't have traded any of them for anything in the world. But once I got "Boxerized" I am just not completely happy or fulfilled unless I have one.They are "different" as you learned. 
 
I will keep you in my prayers and hope that the awful anniversary is over with soon.
Jonesy

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Glad you are talking to me it is helping but I’m still so sad. Next month on Father’s Day is when it happened. My wife ask me yesterday when we was talking about Ben when we was in the shop how he would come around the shop and check on me and then go back outside or he would lie in front of his fan. Asking a question here. Is there miniature boxers? I have heard there is. I will probably text you some more especially when that day gets close. Thank you for listening
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I'm so sorry about the awful approaching anniversary and it is even sadder that it is on Father's Day since besides your beloved Ben being your friend you were also would have been like a father to him. Please try to take some comfort in the fact that Ben was very blessed to have had you as a father and friend. You gave him the truly wonderful earthly life that he deserved. And now that he is in Heaven he is with the ultimate Father who has restored him to perfect health so that he can run and play and leap for joy. Ben isn't "gone"--he is simply in a different place. But even so being separated from him--even if it is just temporary--is painful beyond belief.
 
That is so sweet how your beloved Ben would check on you. Mine used to do that to me. 
 
There aren't miniature boxers as a breed per say but they vary quite a bit in size. The average weight for a male ranges from 60-70 pounds and for a female 55-60 pounds. But I have known some that were quite small--in the high 30 pound to low 40 pound range and some that were quite huge--around 110 to 115 pounds! My Kissie Kissie Cassie was around 43 pounds, The Fabulous Buster was about 72 pounds, Darling Brewster is 74 pounds and my Big Baby Baron was 112 pounds.
 
How much did your beloved Ben weigh? Was he your first boxer? What made you decide to get a boxer? Did you get him as a puppy or as an adult? Where did you get him from? How long did it take until you realized that boxers are "different" than other dogs? How long did it take for you to get "Boxerized" by Ben?
 
I don't have a phone that gets texts. Try sending me another e-mail since the first one never got through. My direct e-mail address is in my profile so try copying and pasting it directly onto an e-mail to me and see if it will go through to me that way.
Jonesy

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Thanks for getting back with me again. Ben was my first Boxer but I have been around them. We live way out in the country and the people across the road had one. My son and their son which is a police officer now went to school and hung out together good friends. They had one that was bigger than Ben biggest Boxer I had ever seen and haven’t seen one that big since. Anyways those boys and there other friends when they was together that boxer was with them out here in the woods no matter where those boys where he was there. He was a good dog not as friendly as Ben with everyone but a cool dog and that’s and seeing other boxers made us decide on one. Be as far as weight he would run from 55-62 pounds I think he did at one time he got up to 68. But the way he ran and played 60 was his normal. I appreciate this that you have taken the time to text me back. It is still ruff and I’m not looking forward to father day coming up. Do you think it was right for me to if brought him home and buried him out back
Dogmommy

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It is not surprising that your neighbors boxer was always with the boys no matter where they were. Boxers love kids and watch over them.
 
It sounds like your beloved Ben was around the average weight for a boxer. He might have seemed small because you were used to your neighbor's giant sized one. After we lost our beloved giant sized Big Baby Baron we took in a temporary foster who's owners had died and needed a temporary home until it's new owner could come back from a long trip. I was shocked at how small the foster was because I was so used to Big Baby Baron. Turns out the foster was actually pretty average size. 
 
Of course it was right for you to have brought your beloved Ben's earthly remains home and to have buried him out back in a place he loved. We are the ones who have to live with the awful pain of temporary separation and whatever we choose to do with the earthly remains of our beloved pet is the right decision. Some people bury their beloved pets in their yards, some in pet cemeteries, some have them cremated and keep the ashes in their homes or scatter them in a place their pets loved, some people do not keep the body at all. Since it is such an individual thing and all circumstances are different all of those decisions are right.
 
We buried our beloved pets in the yard at our family home. Even though we knew their earthly remains were only the cocoon and not really them since they were in Heaven it still brought comfort to us having them close to us in a place they loved and where they were so very loved. We were all a family and it was home.
 
Since I decided to be cremated when I die I decided to have Buster cremated too and told my family and have left written instructions that his ashes are to be mixed in with mine. When my beloved Big Baby Baron died I did the same thing. Human cemeteries do not allow pets to be buried with their owners (though lots of people sneak the pet ashes in with their owners because that is what the owners wanted) but since we have an old  private family cemetery our commingled ashes can be sent there or sent to a pet cemetery since they are allowed to bury human ashes with the pets and the demand for this has become so great that many pet cemeteries are opening special sections for this purpose. Even though I know that neither The Fabulous Buster or Big Baby Baron or myself will really be there since we will actually be in Heaven I still want our ashes to be together and I want a marker on the grave with our names as a memorial and tribute to them.
 
Once again I am so dreadfully sorry about the awful approaching anniversary and will keep you in my prayers. Other Christians are praying too.
Jonesy

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Thanks for listening to my stories of my Pal Ben. I will probably be writing you again when that date gets closer. I thank you again for your time
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