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He was the picture of health a week ago, still hopping up on my chair to sit next to me while I worked on my computer. Now, he's gone. Last Saturday, I noticed he was having trouble breathing. And then, when he got up, Tristan had lost so much weight, almost overnight! *How* could this have happened, without me noticing?? This beautiful white and black kitten who chose me at the shelter when I went to pick out a cat, suddenly gone after fourteen years of good health.

The vet took 145 ccs of fluid from his chest and sent the fluid for a cytology report that I'd receive on Tuesday, the day after Memorial Day. Tristan came home that day, slightly better, at least breathing a little easier. He wasn't eating or drinking much, but he was happy, purring up a storm and talking every time he was spoken to. I worried over him, trying all kinds of foods to entice him to eat. Baby food, chicken, tiny pieces of pork, but he wouldn't eat much at all. He was still drinking a couple of times a day, but I knew that he couldn't last a long time without eating more. Tuesday arrived with the results of the report - there were many cancer cells in the chest fluid, and the vet was not recommending chemotherapy. I'm not sure I would have put him through it anyway.

My heart was breaking for him, but I didn't want to have him suffer. By Wednesday morning, he had failed even more, barely lifting his head and he wasn't purring or talking any more. I knew it would have to be today that I freed him from his suffering. It was and still is one of the toughest decisions I've had to make. I had my eleven year old daughter say goodbye to him before she left that morning, and it was heartbreaking watching them.

I held him close on the way to the vet, and he kept nudging me with his nose. I'll never forget that! My sweet boy. He was just a love bug. I stayed with him to the end, telling him he was almost there. He's free now, but I miss him terribly. I think I hear him all the time and see him around corners.

This weekend, we'll be putting flowers on his grave.


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So sorry for your loss. 

Having to do the right thing for our beloved pets has to be the hardest thing we as humans have to do.  I was in your shoes 18 weeks ago with my beloved Rupert.  He had kidney failure at the age of 15 and it broke my heart to see him dying before and having to call the vet.  I don't know how I found the strength because I haven't had it since.

Be kind to yourself and try to get through one day at a time.  That is all you can do.  Tristan loved you and knew his time on earth was over. Animals are rather pyschic and they know they are dying before we do.  He knew you loved him.  My thoughts are with you at this time.  Ruperts Mum

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Dear Teresa

I am so sorry.  I know how heartbreaking this is.  I lost my 3 yr. old kitty, Gus, almost 6 months ago.  He was gone within a week of showing any symptoms of being sick.  Cats are such stoic animals and do not show us that they are not feeling well.  It was very hard (still is) for me to accept that Gus was taken from me at such a young age, but I try to focus on the quality of the life he had, not how long he lived.  He was such a loved cat.  I hope you can also find comfort in knowing that Tristan had a wonderful life.  He had a home with people who loved him so much.

These first weeks/months are so hard.  It is so hard to accept and believe that our babies are truly gone.  Be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grieve.  When you feel ready, please tell us more about your Tristan.  We would love to hear more about him and it really helped me to share some of the funny stories about my Gus.

My thoughts and prayers are with you,
Kate (Gus' mom)


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Dear Teresa,

I am so sorry you and your daughter had to say goodbye to your beloved kitty, Tristan.  I can tell just how deeply the two of you loved him and how much he is missed.   It is so much more difficult, I think, when illness claims them quickly and unexpectedly.   But, you were so brave and gave him the the most loving and merciful gift.   You freed him from his pain.  There is no greater love than that.   He knows your heart and still feels that love.

Please know that you can come here for support whenever you feel the need.  Everyone here knows the awful pain of loss and how very difficult those first few weeks and months can be after a loss of a beloved furbaby.   We will be here for you.

Sending hugs,
Betsy's forever mom

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Dear Teresa
No words I can say will ease your pain at present, but know I am here, as are we all.  I am so sorry that your Tristan had to leave you.  Much love, I am thinking of you, Di xxx

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Dear Tristansmom,

My deepest sympathy to you and your daughter, on the loss of your Beloved Little Kitty, Tristan.  It is the hardest thing to do, letting go, but the most loving when your baby is in pain.  I'm so sorry.

Katharine, Grunt's Mom Forever

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God Bless you for seeing it through to the end and knowing **WHEN **. . from what you wrote you did all the right things . .right to the end . .the GREATEST gift you can give to one you Love, is to take away their pain". (or not let them have it at all! . . whenever possible)
I've had to hold that close to my heart many, many times.
I ache for you both, and FEEL what you're going through . .
May Angles see you both through this painful loss and bring you RAINBOWS!!
Love & Light
Karma's Mom

Posts: 12
Dear Rupertsmum, Kate (Gus' mom), Melissa, Di, Katharine (Grunt's mom), and Katherine (Karma's mom),

Thank you all for your kind words; it helps so much to know that there are others out there that understand. My daughter read all the posts tonight, that were written to us. She was crying when she was done, but it was good for her to see that others were saying the same things I was telling her. This was her first experience in losing a dear furry friend.

Today, we planted flowers on Tristan's grave. I still can't believe he's gone. Thank you all for all you've done for us. I hope to post a picture of him soon. He's a handsome guy.


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Dear Teresa

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Tristan. My heart and prayers are with you.

Your story sounds so similar to that of my baby boy's, Cheeseburger. He passed away on May 4th 2008. He had cancer in his lungs that most likely started somewhere else and had spread.

I miss him so much - he was part of everything I did. I will always be thankful he was with me for 10 years - years of love and happiness.

You have friends here who care and understand.

Bless you Tristan.

Cheeseburger's Mom

Dee + Cheeseburger = LOVE


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Thank you all for the kind messages you've sent to us. We've now planted Tristan's garden and the girls are proud of it. Here's a picture of my older daughter with Tristan about six years ago. I hope the picture shows up!


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i couldn't get the pic to show in your post and Tristan is too lovely not to share. I am so sorry for your loss

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Ghatten, thank you for posting Tristan's picture!

K, my daughter, will be thrilled to see his picture in a post. I'm still searching for more digital photos.

We're still missing him...we love you, Tristan!

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