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NanThomas19

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I feel so very lost and alone. A little over 2 months ago, I had to say goodbye to my Sweet Emma. I had never had to make a decision to Euthanize a pet before. It was heart wretching! I have been reading the posts that have been shared on the pet loss message board, so I know you know the heartache I am experiencing! I am at a loss for words. I cry all the time. I can't sleep. I am not motivated to do much of anything. (Very typical grief issues) I just want to curl up and fall asleep hoping that when I wake up, it will have all been a bad dream!! Emma was always my "Go To" when I felt bad. I'm feeling so bad now and she's not here! I contacted Penelope Smith, who helps people heal the feelings of loss and separation by connecting them to their faithful companion in spirit. She, unfortunately, was not taking any new consultations. I was really looking forward to working with her as I have read a lot of her work! She referred me to a list of others on her webpage, however, I really don't have the energy right now to pursuit it. Has anyone used someone like Penelope Smith, and if so could you share your experience? I have been wanting to reach out since Emma past away, but Tonight, I knew I had to! I have another dog. Her name is Leisel and she is a Yorkie that I have had since she was a pup. She turned 16 on Monday. She is having a lot of medical problems and I fear she won't be with us much longer.
Thank you for taking the time to read this,
Emma and Leisel's Mom
RF

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Nothing is as devastating as seeing a loved one die, and that includes our pets.  It rips your heart out and crushes it.  Then the ache and despair of grieving sets in. And it seems nothing helps it but time, and even then it will jump out and grab you again and again.  Eventually it subsides, but it never goes away.  What saddens me is knowing our pets have such short lives compared to ours, so we have sooo many years to miss them.

I guess I'm not being very helpful to you, but I sure know how you feel.  My only suggestion is to go with the grief, and let it gradually diminish over time to a tolerable level.  Try to maintain some normalcy in your life though, whenever you can.  Emma would not want you to be unhappy on her account, even though her physical self is gone.  She's still there, in your heart.




NanThomas19

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Thank you so much RF for your words of wisdom!!! You HAVE been very helpful!!! You are very correct about us living so much longer after our Faithful Friends depart. I am new to the Forum I especially appreciate your kind words and support! Have you recently lost a pet?
RF

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Yes, my wonderful cat Henry died in April.  He was such a special fellow - I miss him soooo much.  He was only 13 and had abdominal cancer.  I've had a couple dozen cats and over a dozen dogs in my life, and two horses and three goats, and when I think of them all I try to remember how much fun we had with them and how much happiness they gave us, but if I think about them too long the tears start coming, and most especially if they were suffering and unhappy at the end.

Right now we have two dogs and only one cat, a sweet 13-year old female, but soon will be adopting a male cat that a friend has to give up because he is seriously ill and unable to care for his cat.  When Henry died I thought I might not get any more pets because they will die sometime too and I find it so depressing.  But I also know that having another cat will bring a lot of fun and happiness to our house, and many of the dogs and cats we've adopted were in need of a good home and I was happy to be able to give them that.   

I hope you can keep Emma in your mind and heart as she was before her illness.  You did all you could for her and did not let her suffer, even though it meant agony for you.  

I guess all we can do is roll with what fate deals us, as cruel as it can be, and love and cherish our sweet furry friends as much as we can while we have them.  I still miss every single one of them though, and always will.


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