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cincygal10

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Steve was supposed to hear from the recruiter that he spoke to from H&R Block.  Even though he didn't get the job, she was going to a convention and said she would contact him last week  about a possible position somewhere else.   He e-mailed her, but she didn't respond.  He's really down, but I know he's trying not to show it.  He gets up every morning and gets dressed and finds something to do.  Then, he stays in his office all day submitting resumes.  I get to go to work and he doesn't.  This whole situation sucks.....We're getting along but we're not really spending that much time together.  I give him all the support I can including finding job listings for him online.  When will he get a break?  He just needs one job.  It' been over a year and its getting really scarry.  I know I have talked about this a lot, but it helps to vent and I know that so many of you here are in the same boat.  I just hope my boat doesn't sink.  I don't mean to be negative, but sometimes I can't be positive.  He doesn't even have a lead right now.  He's got great credentials, but he is 52 and probably overqualified for a lot of positions.  Anyway, to be continued...
Pam
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I am sorry Steve didn't get the job. So many wonderful people are out of work, and for many, it has been over a year also.  It is too bad the woman didn't call him back.   Many prayers are being sent Steve's way and one of these days he will get THE call.  Hang in there, Pam!

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PamGarland

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The recruiter should have called him like she said she would.  Maybe that's a reflection of the kind of company it is or maybe something came up and she just hasn't made the call yet.  I wouldn't give up hope yet.  
Has Steve considered volunteering somewhere?  It's great for making contacts and sometimes even getting a foot in the door. He needs something external to keep him busy.  
It's hard to be the one giving emotional support; don't forget to give yourself some support, too.  We are all here to help you.  
Berta

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I am so sorry, Pam. I can imagine the frustration and anxiety that you and Steve are going through. My prayers continue.
The economy is just so horrible and so many people are suffering. I had a maintenance position open a few months ago and I had over 50 applicants from all over the state for this very low paying job in my small town. I was amazed. I had applicants with a master's degree applying for a job that doesn't even require a high school diploma and barely pays minimum wage. It is so sad. And the first person I hired quit after 3 days!
I know this is all very disheartening for both of you. I sincerely hope things turn around soon for you and that life will be back to normal. I pray that Steve gets his break soon. Hang in there. You are doing all you can possibly do. Jobs are just so very scarce these days, it will be Steve's turn one day soon.
Hugs and prayers,
Berta

Darian

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Pam is absolutely right about volunteering.  I am the director of a volunteer organization and I've hired 3 of my volunteers in the past year.   It's also a great way to expand your network.    Has he considered putting an ad on Kijiji and offering his services for hire on an as-needed basis?  I know it's not easy.   Best of luck to both of you.

KatLover

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I'm really sorry, the jobs market is still horrible, I know from experience.  It is starting to recover though, very slowly, so keep hanging in there.  One thing to consider using is social networking such as Linkedin.com.  Set up a profile and then search and connect to others in the business world that Steve may know.  It's also important to take a break from it every now and then.  My prayers are with everyone in this situation.
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I was downsized a few years ago so I can sympathize with your situation....it's a hard thing to accept and especially hard not to blame yourself....even though it was a company decision...you still want to think that somehow you did something wrong...I did some volunteer work at the St Vincent DePaul at my church and also the local Goodwill.....this not only got me out of the house...but also gave me back some self worth....I strongly recommend doing some volunteer work....and don't be afraid to seek professional help....my wife convinced me after she felt I was going into depression....it was the best thing I did....my prayers are with you.....easy to say....but just keep thinking positive thoughts.....good things will always come to good people.

Murphy22

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I think volunteering or getting involved is great advice.  It's so hard facing the computer day in and day out on those job and company web sites.  You feel it's so futile and such a waste of time after sending hundreds of resumes. 

Once I got back to work after being layed off for 11 months, once in the new job, I had someone who I was now working with approach me for another opportunity in her area of the business, and another who after working with him for 4 months was leaving to go to another company and asked me if I would go with him as his executive assistant.  Now another contact/friend I've made in this new environment has called me twice for opportunities in the President's office.  So being out there is what it's all about.   I was down and out after almost 11 months of being layed off - I was ready to just throw in the towel and retire and get old.  Then everything changed in one flash when the right place contacted me. 

If Steve has any interests  where he could volunteer, or explore new ones, anything to get him out with people.  Gives him a sense of being needed, a place he has to be, people who are counting on him.   Disaster recovery companies or Red Cross  may need volunteers.  They send them in to disaster areas in the U.S. to help in many ways from administration to hands on work. 

Put on the ole thinking cap Pam, let us know if you come up with any suggestions.
Take care and Kiss the girls!
Sandie

Murphy22

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I think volunteering or getting involved is great advice.  It's so hard facing the computer day in and day out on those job and company web sites.  You feel it's so futile and such a waste of time after sending hundreds of resumes. 

Once I got back to work after being layed off for 11 months, once in the new job, I had someone who I was now working with approach me for another opportunity in her area of the business, and another who after working with him for 4 months was leaving to go to another company and asked me if I would go with him as his executive assistant.  Now another contact/friend I've made in this new environment has called me twice for opportunities in the President's office.  So being out there is what it's all about.   I was down and out after almost 11 months of being layed off - I was ready to just throw in the towel and retire and get old.  Then everything changed in one flash when the right place contacted me. 

If Steve has any interests  where he could volunteer, or explore new ones, anything to get him out with people.  Gives him a sense of being needed, a place he has to be, people who are counting on him.   Disaster recovery companies or Red Cross  may need volunteers.  They send them in to disaster areas in the U.S. to help in many ways from administration to hands on work. 

Put on the ole thinking cap Pam, let us know if you come up with any suggestions.
Take care and Kiss the girls!
Sandie

LindaK

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I'm so sorry Pam. Hang in there my friend. God has big, wonderful plans for both you and Steve. I just know it!
God bless, Linda
cincygal10

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You guys are the best.  You always give such great advice.  Steve is not sitting in the house.  He does go to seminars once or twice a week on job searches and he is with a lot of people networking.  His spirits appear to be up and he takes advantage of these workshops so he can be with other people.  He said they are all in their 50's just like him.  I keep hearing these stories about how it has taken some people two years to find a job.  I pray that doesn't happen to us.  We have used more than half of our retirement fund to pay bills.  We will just have to put one foot in front of the other and carry on.  I know something will happen.  It's just hard waiting and not knowing what our future holds.  You have all helped me so much.  Thank you again for your warm support and for letting me vent.  I will certainly keep all of you posted. 
                     Sleep peacefully,
                              Pam
LoriDR

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Oh Pam, I'm so sorry. This has been one bad year for Steve. I'm sending positive thoughts your way. Hugs, Lori

Les

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Pam,

I found this website where you can search for job openings

http://www.indeed.com/

yahoo also has a story about 10 cities that have openings.

Hang in there - its like finding a needle in a haystack  - but there are jobs out there.

Keep us posted. :)

mollyboltsmom

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Pam,
Such a poor turn of events for you and Steve. I continue to pray for both of you.

Lorraine
Cecis_Mom

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Dear Pam,

I am so sorry for this chronic situation.

Do you think he could try retail with the holidays coming up?

Has he signed up with temp agencies?  Find out which ones send people to your local university.  He could very well get placed in a short or long term position. 

At the university where I work, many folks use the temp agency to get their foot in the door.  When a permanent job is posted, they often get the job because they have networked on campus as a temp. 

And many of us are college-educated and overqualified for our positions at my university, but they hire us anyway because we have great communication skills and work well with people. 

Steve may need to reflect on all of his transferable skills he does indeed have and possible look into areas he has never worked before but could learn quickly on the job with all of his transferable skills.

I understand the age discrimination thing which is also rampant in California, but I am sure hoping my ideas still may work for him.

Take good care and keep us posted ~

God Bless You All,

Ceci's Mom (Robin) and Mama to Lil' Red, my precious boy
                                                                and The Pinny Gig



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