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I'm not even sure why I'm posting this. Maybe it's because I know most of you understand. Although I don't know what to say except...it's hard. It's really hard and I'm struggling.
Early August I had to let my cat rest. Someone on here said in another post something like...it was before the worse of the suffering started. And that's how it was for us two. Or so I would like to think. We lived alone. She was my everything. I feel like I've lost my purpose. I feel angry and at the same time such immense sadness. I think I'm realizing that I need to talk about it and that you who are on here and reading this, have gone or is going through something similar. I wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy but I'm selfishly glad I'm not alone. Never thought I'd say this but today I'm truly thankful for a platform like this.
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We are together in our grief. It follows the same path/stages for everyone but it is still an intensely personal journey. Your beautiful cat hasn't been gone for long. The two months feels like a very long time but it's not for grieving. Time will pass and the overwhelming feelings will diminish but they won't disappear. We carry our feelings for our beloved little ones for the rest of our lives. I posted these suggestions before and i think they might help for you too. the aplb.com has a great online chat for people who are grieving. you can check their website for the times. you can also have/build a memorial for cat. write a letter to your cat and/or have your cat write you. make a memories box. make a journal. i believe the sadness is a part of the fabric of humanity......the greater the love, the greater the grief. may be light a candle. take care yourself physically. best wishes. MC
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Kernelsie I am so deeply sorry about your loss. This past Monday I had to put down our 15-year-old silky terrier. He was everything to us and I just seem to cry every day. I am told that it is so much harder when it is just a pet and an owner living together. The emptiness must be devastating and overwhelming. I started in grieving therapy with a counselor who specializes in pet loss. It help me explore my feelings of loss. There are many health lines and perhaps a counselor near you that you can speak to. Everyone says that it gets better over time and I am only four days away from the loss and it seems that it’s so far away to feeling better. I would strongly suggest that you engage a local priest, sympathetic friends, a grief counselor, it’s so important to verbalize what you’re feeling. I also find it helpful to change the routine and just get outside or do something to take my mind off my loss I feel that every day I can check off the calendar will get me closer to what I know will be a tolerable time. God bless you and keep posting to let us know how you’re doing I will look out for you
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Thank you Marlow_Cat_1 and johnv for your kind words and advice. It means the world knowing you understand this experience and all the different emotions that go with it.
Johnv, it's still early days, I am really sorry for your loss. For the past 15 minutes I've been trying to find some words of encouragement to give you. There's a lot I can say that I'm currently not convinced of in my own heart so instead of being fake, for now I can say only this...take it day by day and like Marlow_Cat_1 said...take care of yourself physically. I've read a lot of posts on here and one thing I've realised is that people, even when going through the hardest of times themselves, will find the strength to provide support to others. To those, hats off and thank you.