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Thrifty66

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Q few years ago,my wife left me,and left md holding the bag on our mortgage.Being semi retired,I quickly fell behind on mortgage and tax payments,which resulted in my home of 24 years,being forclosed on,and sold at auction.The bottom feeder who profited from the loss of my home,refused to consider renting to me,and we were told by the sherrif,that the locks would be changed, on Friday the 10th.i owned a shelter dog named Oliver,from the Humane Society,when he was a puppy.He did have aggressive tendencies,so we hired a trainer,to help him learn to o b less agressive.The training was not successful,but he was was still a loving and loyal pet,and an excellent watchdog
Because I am deaf,he also helped me to know when people were coming to the house,and he always alerted,me.
Once I knew for certain that I was going to lose my home,I started looking for a new family to adopt Ollie Lots of people called as bout Ollie,but very few people showed up to m to him.Those that did,declined to adopt him.With less than a couple of weeks to move,I asked the property manager at my new place,if I could keep my dog,and was told no go.With nowhere else to turn,I had to surrender my boy,to the county animal shelter,the same day that I had to move
I was pummeled by grief,once he was out in the kennel,and started crying like a child,right then,and there.It was too much for me to take, emotionally,and the grief at having to surrender my devoted boy,tore me to pieces.I am profoundly guilt ridden,over abandoning my boy.As a senior citizen,he was my constant loving companion,always there for me.Having to betray him,and put him in a cage, surrounded by strange dogs,left him stricken,and bewildered.
I was so overcome,with guilt and despair,that I went into a deep depression,and I can't seem to pull out of it
When my two Golden's passed from olde age,the grief was there,for their passing.
But it was nothing compared to the heartbreak and remorse,that I feel for having abandoned my special boy.My heart is broken over this,and I miss him more than I can ever put into words.
Thank you

Kat_HCSWG

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Dear Thrifty,
I am so sorry for your immeasurable loss(es). As i imagine what that must have felt like, my stomach turns in knots.
I feel so sorry because it seems like you were pushed around and backed into a corner. That’s not ok with me. I have questions:
1. Did you just surrender him yesterday?
2. Is the shelter a “no kill”?
3. Does your town have something like “People Assisting Animal Control (PAAC)”?
4. Also, you mentioned you got him from the Humane Society, is there any way you can get him moved over there?
5. You mentioned a few things that may help if you focus on them. You are deaf and the dog assisted you with daily life. This could be considered an Americans w/Disabilities Act issue. I don’t mean you should try and force the landlord to allow you to keep your dog there if it’s against their policy but maybe there is financial assistance out there for you to be able to move to a place where you can keep him.

Please reply. :-)

Kat
Thrifty66

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Hi Kat,thanks so much for your kind response.
Yes,you are right about the vile house flipper being a real bully While the law still allowed us to remain in the home,this s.o.b. came and turned the heat off on December 18th.my son went out and told the lineman that there was an elderly man,and a dog inside the home,but the utility co.rep,said there was nothing he could do,to prevent it.That was about 8 a.m.
and it also became very windy as well,which made things even colder.My son spent the night at a friend's house,but my dog and I were,having a very hard time,trying to get warm.Around two a.m. that morning,Oliver was wimpering from the cold,as the temp had dropped to about 37 degreesI tried to cover Oliver with blankets,but he kept shaking the blankets off,and he and I were both shivering.
I contacted the utility company,and told them that I depended on a breathing machine,to
sleep at night,to prevent my airways from collapsing,and Ihat I had great difficulty breathing without power for my machine,
so they turned the heat back on,but by then the heat inside my home a had dropped to about 39 degrees,so it took hours for the heat,to return to a safe level.I lived in fear,that the house flipper would return,and have the power shut off .It was on January 9th that I surrendered Oliver,to the animal shelter,as no one else,wanted him.Because of my deafness I had a very hard time,understanding what they said,at the shelter,when I bought him in
I don't know if that facility is a no kill shelter,but I will find out,and let you know
The facility manager,texted me today,and
said that Oliver was not doing well there.
They said he snaps,and lunges at them,when they try to interact with them,and that he has refused to eat.He had such a happy life at home with my son and me,that he must feel abandoned,and starting to give up hope.I contacted the Humane Society,where we adopted Oliver,and they. said they have a
lengthy waiting list,for new pets,to be accepted, there.The manager at the shelter said that they would keep trying to work with Oliver,until Monday,but that if he remains aggressive,it would be inhumane,to let him linger in a cage,and that they can euthanize him,if need be.if I had had any idea that my wife was going to walk out on the family,I would never have consented to allow my daughter, and her mother,to have adopted Oliver,in the first place as they each moved out,less than two years later.But Oliver and I
grew even closer,since then,and he was a devoted,and loving companion for me.
If there are any other questions that you have for me,please let me know,Kat.

Thanks a
Bill Williams
ChubbysMom

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Dear Bill,

I'm so sorry to hear how things happened with your home and Ollie. Praying for your family.

Jo

ChubbysMom

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Wanted to add, whatever happens to Ollie now, you brought him home from a shelter and gave him a loving home for years. Many dogs never have that privilege. Sounds like Ollie was well loved and had the opportunity to be part of a family. What a blessing for a dog. Sending good thoughts to your family.
Thursday

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Thrifty, please call Legal Aid to help you, at the city, county or state level. Google your state name and Legal Aid and ask for help. No doubt that this could be an ADA issue. They should be able to help with the Flipper also.
Naturegirl61

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Bill have you thought about contacting the shelter to let you know if they plan to euthanize so you can be with him? That will be the Best 2nd gift you can give him. Prayers of Comfort and Peace for you Bill
Prayers your home situation will turn into new beginnings.
(((Hugs)))
Kat_HCSWG

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Bill, any news? I’m hoping for the best.
Thrifty66

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Thanks very much.I am not sure what an ADA issue is?
Thursday

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Americans with Disabilities Act. You have rights that are being disrespected. Legal Aid may be able to write a letter or sue on your behalf
Thursday

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I'd also help you contact your local newspaper if you feel comfortable sharing your location. You can PM . Praying for you.
Kat_HCSWG

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ADA issue means your rights are being infringed upon as a person with a disability such hearing impairment. Maybe the city or county needs to intervene on your behalf in some way. I dunno
Thrifty66

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Thanks to all,for your compassion,and advice.
I deeply appreciate your kindness and prayers
Kat_HCSWG

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I feel for you Bill. You’ve had a rough go of it. ChubbysMom is right...you gave Ollie an awesome life, a lot better than a lot of animals get. Hold onto your memories. :-)
Thrifty66

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Thanks,it has been a really rough ride for this olde cowboy.i appreciate your kindness, Kat
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