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Sat. night (April 26th) a very unfortunate thing happened. I lost my precious Meka to a Coyote, only 40 feet from my window in our apartment complex. She was only 10 months old and the most loving, personable, brave cat I have ever had. Unfortunately, some people are insensitive, negligent and clueless. That night around 9:30pm I shut the sliding glass door and made sure Meka was inside. She meowed to me and told me how eager she was to get out. But, of course, I knew there was no way she could be out so late. Before I moved into this apartment, we lived on an acre of land that was fully fenced in. Meka would spend her days outside hunting, climbing trees, living life to the fullest. After moving in, she had the hardest time adjusting to living as an indoor cat. Deep down inside I knew how frustrated she must have felt. She was allowed to wonder outside during the day, provided I left the front door open and at night, I would take her for “walks” in which I supervised her outside activity until I would bring her in.

I can’t even express into words how angry I am at my roommate. Sat. night around 10:30PM, my roommate and her boyfriend came home and Meka darted out the front door. Brian (my boyfriend) and I were watching a moving in my room completely unaware she got out. My insensitive, clueless, negligent roommate didn’t let me know all night long that my Meka had gotten out nor did she try to catch her. As the night went on, I started to wonder where Meka was and figured she was in my Deanna’s room and I thought if she had gotten outside, either my roommate or her boyfriend would have told me (that’s only logical to think, right?) But nobody did……and as my roommate went to sleep that night knowing that Meka was outside with no way of getting back in, a neighbor witnessed a coyote chase after her, grab her by the neck, and shake her unconscious. Sadly, Meka was not dead and woke up dazed and confused until the coyote then again, shook her until she was dead. This happened literally 40 feet from my window and I wonder how I didn’t hear anything. I can’t even stand to look at my roommate. I just can’t comprehend how she would think it was okay to lock her out of the apartment and not tell me….I had to call her the following morning when I was looking for Meka to ask her when she last saw her. And that’s when she finally thought it might be important to tell me she had gotten out the night before. I am so angry with her…..Meka was my precious baby. She loved me so much, she would lay on my chest and give me kisses on my face. She didn’t deserve to die because of Deanna’s negligence and insensitivity. I hope she is in kitty heaven looking down at me. I hope she knows how much she means to me.

I’m hurting right now, I’m crushed from losing my kitty and I feel betrayed by a selfish “friend”. Nothing she can say will ever bring my Meka back. This entire tragedy could have been prevented…..if I would have known she had gotten out, I would have brought her back inside and she would still be here with me giving me kisses.

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Dear vallygirl927, I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet little Meka. I agree with you that your roommate was very insensitive, probable because she and her boyfriend don't know what it is to have a furbaby you love and care for. You poor little Meka liked so much to go outside... I don't know why that girl could not even yell that she escaped or went out. I hope you can go throught this, remember you're not alone. You little baby is now fine, running and playing in a place she is safe. Don't worry your sweet Meka will be always close to you...
Diana, Jessie's mom.
My Jessie, I miss you so much!!!


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Oh honey, I am so, so very sorry.  I can't even imagine the pain you are feeling.  I'm sure it makes it so much worse when it is something that could have been prevented.  I try to be a forgiving person, but I don't know if I could ever get past someone's carelessness that caused harm to one of my babies. Unfortunately, there are many who do not have the same love and compassion for animals as we do.  My family and friends know how much my kitty, Gus, meant to me, but they just can't grasp the pain I feel in losing him.

I know there are no words that can take away your pain, but I hope you can find comfort in knowing that your sweet Meka is watching over you from the Rainbow Bridge.  I know she was welcomed by my Gus. She knows how much you love her and she will live in your heart forever. 

Please come here often for support.  When I lost my Gus, I received so much help from the wonderful people here.  I don't know what I would have done without the love and prayers from others who are feeling the same pain.

You and your beloved Meka are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs and prayers
Kate (Gus' mom)


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That is so terrible. I think I would strangle the roomate. How could she? I hope you do not plan on being friends with someone like that. She does not deserve your friendship. I am so angry reading this.
I am so sorry this has happened to you. Please know that it is not your fault. You can't follow a kitty constantly and watch her every move. That is just not possible. And as you said, she was having a very difficult time adjusting. Unfortunately it is extremely difficult to change an outdoor kitty into an indoor so unfortunately I feel that your kitty would get out at some point.
Please, accept my deppest regards. I am so sorry you've lost your baby.

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Oh Valleygirl, my heart is breaking for you sweetie. I am so sorry for your tragic loss of Meka. I really don't know what to say, I can see how angry you are at your thoughtless roommate. I am sure she didn't mean for Meka to hget you, she probably rushed for the door as soon as it opened but still she should have then told you right away that she got out so you could go get her back inside.  You can't blame yourself, it was an accident, pure and simple and even with the best intentions accidents happen.  It is so easy to go back and disect everything that happened and what you should have or could have done to prevent what happened but all that is going to do is drive you crazy.  It is hard to take the "outdoors" out of a cat once they get a taste of it. She was probably really missing being able to roam outside so she was ready to flash out any open door.  I am assuming you live in CA by your screenname and I have to tell you that the very same thing happened to my brother in law and his girlfriend's cat Miles. He was a young cat too, under 2 and he loved it outside. They would let him go out but tried not to let him stay out all night but sometimes he did.  They live in Oceanside. Anyways, my brother in law was leaving on a plane to go to Boston in the morning and that night he got home late and Miles darted out the door so he figured he would be ok. The next morning his girlfriend was in the kitchen and looked out the window in their backyard and saw something and called my brother in law to go out and see and sure enough it was Miles and he had been killed by a coyote, or at least they think it was a coyote. They had heard news reports that it had been happening alot in the area and they actually had heard the howling that night because it was raining but didn't think much of it.  Oh it was so tragic.  I am so so sorry for your loss of Meka and I do hope that peace will come to you at least in knowing she is happy and healthy and free at the Bridge and that she loves and misses her Mommy very much. She would not want you to be so sad and in pain.  She will always be a part of you, she is in your heart and soul and will always be there.

Hugs and comfort to you.



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Dear Valleygirl, I am so very sorry about your darling Meka. Your roommate and her friend had no idea what the consequences of their negligence would be. People do not think. Now unfortunately you must suffer this pain and loss. Sometimes there are just no answers to why things happen. It is true what Kdclairmo said. Once a cat has been outside, it is very hard to control the instinct to get out and roam. Oh the freedom. After over 2 years my daughter's cat took off and returned to the outdoors. He would come back to eat but would not let her or anyone get close to him. So there probably isn't anything you could have done to avoid this horrible accident. Please remember you gave Meka a wonderful life and she knew how loved she was. I wish you peace and comfort. Again I am so sorry. Donna, Mr. Meowgy's mom


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It's just so said to think back to Sat. night and realize that this was that last thing I would imagine happening. I seriously thought that if she ever got out that someone would tell me! I trusted my roommate to do just that. I was home....all she had to do was yell for me "Val, you're cat got out" and she said NOTHING! It is true, the same thing probably would have happened another night when I wasn't home. This just goes to show what kind of person she is....I just don't think I can ever be friends with her again. And she has the nerve to tell me Meka was becoming a burden to her; she felt like she was becoming her responsibility. That is the biggest B.S. I've ever heard!!!!!! I never asked her for anything! I gave my Meka excellent care and attention.... always food, water, clean litterbox, toys, walks, kisses, treats, and training. If she got out, which there were a few times she did, I was there to bring her back in.....and for the one night I was gone, I was home early the next morning, I hated leaving her for more than a few hours. I don't need to justify this to myself, I know she knew I loved her....I'm just shocked that anyone could think that way.... Meka and I deserved better.


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Don't worry she's no friend how could she be and be so thoughtless and unfeeling towards you and your kitty.  What a horrible way she picked to show her true colors at the expense of indirectly causing your beloved furbaby die.  You need to vent and express your rage and sorrow.  This was not your fault!  Please remember that and know that we are all hear to help you get throught this horrible thing.  I lost my cat Sherry only a few weeks ago unexpectedly through an illness that was undiagnosed and I too am in sorrow and disbelief as well as guilt for not having her checked at the vets in time.  Please keep coming here, this is a safe place for you.

Lots of hugs
Rena (Sherry's mom)

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This is only my humble opinion, but yes, I agree with you. This friend sounds like some piece of work. For your own sanity, I would tell her exactly how you feel and how upset/dissapointed you are with her for her actions. With coyotes everywhere, there is a large risk for small animals--and if she didn't know that, she should have. Don't spare her her own responsibility for her actions. You'll feel lighter, too, if you get this off of your shoulders.
I'm sorry for your loss.

Posts: 555

Dear Vallygirl,
I am so sorry for the loss of your baby Meka.
It must be so difficult to look at your room mate and have to live in the same apartment knowing she thought so little of your feelings or your Meka that she would allow this to happen.
I'm sure she never thought anything so tragic would happen and never meant to hurt you or your baby but sometimes people learn the hard way that they need to be more considerate of others and that other people have different priorities then they have.
I am at a loss as to how you can deal with the situation with a room mate like that as only you know if it is possible to change the living conditions but in my heart I know that is what i would need to do in order to not live with constant anger which would not be conducive to healing.
I pray that you can work things out so that you might begin to heal at some point.
Please know we are all here to listen and to comfort you.
Love and Peace,
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