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elizabethH1993

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Just wondering if anyone has gone through something similar.
We got our dog Dylan 7 and a half years ago. He was a collie cross spaniel. He was an absolutely gorgeous puppy at first but quite early on showed signs of aggressive behaviour. He used to jump and bite as a puppy and at first we seeked advice from a vet which gave us some strategies. However, nothing helped and seemed to make him worse. Over the years he bit 2 dogs that approached him on a walk, bit everyone in the family and drew blood from some of his bites and even left scarrs. He was unpredictable, some times he wanted a fuss and you'd fuss him and he would growl and hide from you. Sometimes he would hide and just growl from his hiding place if you walked past or if someone said something. He also went for the cat when he went near his food. We tried many things to help a calming collar and a behaviourist that came to the house. She couldn't really help as he was so difficult and aggressive towards her. He became difficult to live with and had to be shut away when there were visitors as we were afraid of what he could potentially do. The last straw was when my younger sibling took him for a walk and stepped on his paw by accident and he jumped up at her and bit her arm and stomach so bad it went through her coat and caused marks l. We made the difficult decision after this for him to be put to sleep. We all feel incredibly guilty and empty. The house is empty and lonely without him. It is such a shame because 95% of the time he was a lovely dog who we all cherished. We're just so sad it had to end this way. I kind of feel if I could turn back the clock is there anything else I could have done. Such an awful feeling.
ddgirl

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Hi Elizabeth, I'm new here, just recently lost my dog, too. I'm still very much trying to find my way through all the sadness, pain and guilt. I've read other posts here and it's so eye-opening to see guilt as a major player in our pain. I'm sure the fact we never really have a clear answer to why a dog (or cat) acts a certain way or whether they are miserable because of illness or deeply-ingrained behavioral issues plays a major role. It's a shame that our brains instantly seek these thoughts ... we do SO much and are willing to do so much and yet this is our bane. We read other stories here to find comfort, yet sometimes you just can't help but wonder if we did all we could. I think euthanizing because of behavioral issues is probably one of the hardest decisions when your pet has been with you for this length of time. You took on a very difficult situation and tried many avenues of relief.  A biting dog is a ticking timebomb. Can you imagine how you'd feel if Dylan grabbed someone in the face? I hope you can ease your mind a bit by thinking about how equally miserable your pup might have been to constantly live with that fear or aggression predominating his thoughts. Wishing you peace ... be gentle with yourself and your thoughts.
Tanker_1

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I am sorry you had to go through this. It is not your fault and it is not your dog's fault. It's awful to have to end an otherwise healthy animal's life for aggression.  

After my experience, I became very picky as to where I get my dogs from. I want to minimize my risk of heartbreak and I do not want to encourage people to bred less than sound animals. My dogs must be sound of mind, body, and sociability and they must come from parents who are the same. 

Here is a link to the American Temperament Test Society. My Doberman would never have past this test, but my last two dogs (pit bulls) did. Humongous hugs to you. 

https://atts.org/ 
elizabethH1993

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Thank you so much for your response, it really does help to talk about it
Ashi

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I recently had to put my heart dog down for similar reasons. It sucks :(
elizabethH1993

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It really does :( can't stop thinking about him and all the what ifs :(
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