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Stuaft

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Ran over my own cat on Monday. I'm devastated heartbroken and feel so guilty. Myself and family loved her so much. Haven't stopped crying or eaten since. Anyone been through this ?
kamc22

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I am so sorry for your horrible accident.  I've not personally experienced this, but there are many posts on this message boards of people who have.  For some reason several of the most recent accounts said the furred one was in poor health, so I couldn't help but wonder if that was a factor as well.  This seems to happen more during the summer, I guess because people and furred ones are out and about more than in wintry weather.

Experiences like  yours have made me almost phobic.  For years regardless of weather or how I was dressed, I'd drop into push-up position on the driveway so that I could look under the car to see if a kitty was there before getting in and starting the engine.  I checked hundreds of times, so far so good.  I truly dread ever having the experience that you are now living through.  But it was NOT your fault.

Unfortunately cats are like small children- low to the ground so hard to spot, fast moving, and not always very cautious around moving vehicles.  I don't know what kind of vehicle you drive, but I read on the CDC website that the number of children accidentally run over has nearly tripled since big SUV's which can have up to a 20 foot blind spot increased (now 200-300 child fatalities/year).  Nobody keeps track of furred ones who meet the same fate, but that has to have gone up even more.

Your cat does not blame  you, knows how very much all of you love her, she knows it was an accident, the very last thing you ever wanted to do.  Cats are smart, they are sentient beings, I personally am convinced they can also read our minds and emotions, they are so aware.

I honestly can't imagine what you are going through now; like you I quit eating and can't stop crying whenever I lose a kitty, even if I've known for months it was coming. It hurts a lot to lose a loved family member, it hurts for a long time. Please don't torture yourself with blame: it was an accident.  As crafty and independent-minded as cats are (I've been a cat person for 60 years now), short of tethering a cat to the sofa or something, when they get an idea they will follow through with it.

My thoughts are with you at this horribly difficult time. 
Stuaft

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Kamc22. Thank you so much for your kind thoughts.our cat was 12 but full of beans. But she was always hanging around the drive and would come running when she saw us. I ran her over and I will have to live with that. I will never have any more cats as the heartache is as bad as losing a family member our whole family is crushed. Thank you again for your reply. Best wishes.
Sharonlee81

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Stuart
So sorry to hear this :( Just know that it was an accident and you can't be too hard on yourself. It was not your intention so you must focus on what a wonderful life your cat had and how much it was loved by the family! She knows how much you care and how badly your heart aches. Feelings of guilt are so common when losing a pet. No matter what we do we will always think of the 'what ifs' but what matters is the love and wonderful life they had. Let the good memories replace the feelings of guilt xo
enogca

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I feel your pain. Did the same to my beloved Charlie tonight.
Stuaft

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Sharonlee81. Thank you so much for your kind words. It is really appreciated. There's just no making sense of it. She had a wonderful life and was so loved. In the house she sat with me always. We're shattered. I will have to live with guilt and just hope she forgives me one day and that we can meet up again when the time comes. Best wishes Stuart.
enogca

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Emotions are so up and down right now. You're numb. You're aware of things around you but you don't care. Stuart, I will be thinking of you. Since we're both going through the same thing,keep me posted on how you're doing and I will do the same.
Stuaft

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Will do.
sallybetty

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I understand your pain, I ran over my cat about a year ago. 
It really is the most horrible thing to ever happen, I can assure you that over time things do get better. Don't blame yourself, you didn't do it on purpose, it was a mistake. Hope your pain eases soon xoxo
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