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cristine1

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I am new to this site and lost my beloved dog, Simba, just three months ago. I haven't cleaned my house, all her toys and things are still laying around. I have not even picked up the urn with her ashes yet. I seem to be on automatic where I go to work, come home, make dinner for my son, etc. But then I retreat into depression. A lot of guilt, lonliness and depression. My friend and neighbor gave me this web site today. I'm hoping that I can get some help here. Thanks
Cristine
mccats9876

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Honey, I know what you are going through.

When I lost my Meowreece, I alternated between crying and sleeping for days on end.

I finally went to my doctor, told him I had lost a dear friend, and he prescribed something to help me get through the bad part.

Your sweet Simba is happy and healthy, and at the Rainbow Bridge.  I am sure Simba would want you to get back into life.  Keep the toys, if they bring you comfort. Clean your home, go get Simba's ashes and put them in a place of honor on the mantlepiece.

God's blessings on you and your family, and dear Simba.
fab1835

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Hi Cristine,

   I am so sorry about the loss of your sweet Simba.Losing a furbaby is very devastating.Our Yorkie,Jingles,who was only 5 years old passed away on Feb.9, 6 weeks after my mom died - on Christmas Eve.I was really in bad shape.Then I found this website where everyone shares their experiences and feelings of their pets that have gone on to Rainbow Bridge.We all have the same thing in common:We love our pets,cry for them and miss them so much.After I wrote my first post the people here suggested that I write some good memories and tha's what I started doing.Think about the fun times you had with Simba.It will take time-a lot of it.Try the Monday Night Candle ceremony on this site.It's very spiritual.

               Mary Anne, Jingles mom
Gruntsmomforever

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Dear Cristine,

I am so sorry you lost your Beloved girl, Simba.  You came to a good place where people care and understand what you have been going through.  It helps to express your feelings and thoughts, get them out in the open, and share with others - in the sharing, you can help others, too.

My Boxer boy, Grunt was put to sleep Feb 29, so I am closing in on 3 months too like you.  He was everything to me, my joy, my heartsong, my life.  I am still grieving deeply and feeling so much guilt, like you.  I hope you will come back - know that you are safe here, no one will judge you, and everyone knows the pain in your heart, and cares.

With deepest sympathy and hugs,
Katharine, Grunt's Mom Forever
WooWooWoo

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Dear Cristine,

I am so sorry you have had to say farewell to your dear, beloved companion, Simba.  I can tell your heart is just broken and so heavy with grief.   I lost my little 16 year old terrier, Betsy, just four months ago and I still cry for her.  

Grief is a slow and treacherous path that is different for everyone.   You have taken a step in the direction of healing by coming here.  I have found immense support and understanding from those who post here.  They have all experienced losses and know how those of us with new losses feel.

Three months is still a relatively short period of time, so I don't find it unusual that you haven't picked up Simba's belongings.   But, is there a reason why you have postponed picking up her urn?   It is difficult to do so, but many times people say it brings them a sense of peace to have their baby's cremains back with them.  Do you have a good friend who can go with you, or even pick them up for you?   I knew I could not pick Betsy's up, so I sent my husband.  By the time I got home, he had carefully placed them on one of our bookshelves and surrounded them with her photos, her little pink ("necklace") collar and her bowl.   It was easier this way.  I knew as soon as I saw her little mahoghany "casket" she was not really in there.  Her spirit was just too strong, too boundless to be in such a tiny box.  So, I felt a sense of pure and complete joy just knowing she was all around me on that day.

You said you retreat into depression at the end of the day and mention that you have a son.  How bad is the depression?  Are you able to eat and sleep?   Are you able to find some pleasure in doing activities with your son?  Some people find they need to consult a grief counselor when they feel overwhelmed.   This is not a sign of weakness.   It is a choice that can make all the difference in the world when you cannot escape the depression.

Please let me know how you are doing.  Again, I am so sorry you have lost your Simba.  May memories of her eventually bring smiles instead of tears.  When you feel up to it, I would love to hear more about your girl.  I will be here to listen.

Hugs,
Melissa
Betsy Noodle's forever mom



martial

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Hi -
I feel your pain. I lost my dog Nimes (a newfy) exactly a month ago. She was 11yo. Every day is a struggle. I think about her all the time and in a way live in denial thinking she will be back soon. There are a lot of people in the same situation on this site. They have helped me go through the past month. It has been one of the toughest time of my life. Hang in there.
Martial
netwolf

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I know.
I get the obvious impression - being new here myself - that everyone here on this board is in, has been in, that same agonizing limbo. Grief from lost love is wierdly numbing, yet inversely piercingly agonizing; physically and mentally enervating, yet miserably kinetic in its restless sleeplessness. I understand. And I'm so sorry.

~Harrison's mom
Harry
erin1210

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My Dog Degas died yesterday. Someone killed him with Rat poison. It was so sudden and I can't stop crying. I kinda feel like I might die myself and I swing from angry at all the evil people in the world to sobbing uncontrollably for my "son." Please, please can someone please tell me what I am supposed to do now? I haven't slept and can't eat and no one knows what to say to me. Please...please..someone talk to me this is unbearable.
Nancee

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Christine--sorry for your loss of Simba.

Erin--you can start your own thread about your dog. Sorry about your loss.
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