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BrooklynDogMom

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I am curious to know each of your thoughts or plans for how to respectfully dispose of (or keep!) the ashes of your beloved animals.  Do you plan to hold on to those ashes for a while?  Or did you burry your animal somewhere special?

Right now I am looking for a beautiful piece of jewelry where I can keep a small amount of my Bella's ashes with me on my body.  I am also considering scattering the rest of her ashes in a serene spot that she liked to go to in our local park.

I would love to hear your ideas or stories.  This is completely new to me.
DogDaddy

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My plan is to keep my babies' ashes and when I die, I want to be cremated and have their ashes mixed with mine. 
cosesmom

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I thought I would share with you my thoughts on my pets ashes. I believe everyone has their own thoughts on this depending on what they feel is right for them.I am keeping both of my Fur babies ashes until I am ready to join them. I want to be buried with them. The reason I am doing it this way is because years ago I buried two other Fur Babies on land I use to own, never thinking I would not be there forever. Now they are buried there, alone. I want them with me for ever. I know if I had a special place I shared with each of them I might consider scattering their ashes but as of today I can't think of anyplace where their ashes would be safe. So for now they are with me and will be for awhile.
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VT

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I never had any intention of getting cremated, or perhaps I've never thought about it. Now, however, without a doubt I want to be cremated and my ashes spread with my baby boy and any future pals that I may eventually have the pleasure of loving.
My parents have buried a couple of dogs a few cats now in two houses and are about to move again and it makes me feel so sad that they're there alone. So yep, cremation all the way.
I'm curious about the jewellery you're looking at though. All the jewellery the cremation place offered was a bit too large and .. well.. tacky. My boy deserves the best! Have you found something you like?
I'm also thinking of getting a tattoo, a black outline of his scruffy face but that's a whole different post! Haha ..sigh... I miss my baby boy.
Partial2Hounds

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I have the ashes of two of my dogs, Maggie and Droopy, sitting on the mantel above our fireplace. They will soon be joined by the their buddy, our beagle Tiger who passed away 12-12-17. When we get his cremains back, he will join them overlooking the living room. I call them "my dogs in a box." ;-)

Anyway, I haven't decided what to do with them, so they just sit there. We raised the three of them together -- two from pups; one from a young dog. They grew up and lived their lives together from 2002 to until 2012 when Maggie was the first to go. Droopy passed in 2015 and now Tiger has crossed the bridge to be with them.

I thought at one time I would mix them all together and maybe plant a tree over them so they would all "live again," but I can't seem to part with them. Maybe I will just keep them until my own passing with instructions to whoever is left after me to spread them somewhere green and living, like a park or a forest.

I was once very opposed to cremation, but I came around to like the idea of having them with me, especially for the "left behind" complications some of the other posters have mentioned. The idea of my dogs being buried in somebody's else's yard is very disquieting for me.


Just my two cents,
Partial2Hounds
goofygirlinva

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I had my kitty Squeeker cremated. I have his ashes in an urn that is by my bed. One of these days I want to return to Best Friends and scatter some of his ashes in their pet cemetery. I want to do this because Best Friends was the organization that rescued him in the Great Kitty Rescue over 10 years ago. Squeeker spent about a year or so there healing from his ordeal before he was sent, along with a bunch of other kitties, to one of their affiliates in MN where we found each other.

As for the rest of his ashes, I want to be cremated when I pass away and then have both of our ashes mixed together.

Most of the other animals I've known and loved were either cremated or buried. My mother took care of those things, and I do not believe she kept any of their ashes. It's a pity, because I think it probably would have brought her some comfort to have their remains with her towards the end of her life.

- Kelly
Angel Blackie's mom
Angel Squeeker's mom



BrooklynDogMom

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Thank you all for your replies and sharing your stories!

VT, I have found some jewelry on Etsy but so far haven't found the perfect piece for me.  I know what you mean about wanting it to be the very best!  :)

I have yet to scatter Bella's ashes, but will probably do so in the future.  For the time being I have set up a little "shrine" of sorts in my living room, in a little corner where she used to have her bed.  I have her ashes in a wooden urn, her paw prints in clay, her collar and dog tag, and a candle.  I have been lighting the candle on days that are particularly hard for me, or times when I just want to remember her.  It has brought me a lot of comfort.

I wish you all comfort and would love to hear any other stories or ideas.
Tammys

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I kept my dog Lucky's ashes on our mantel made a memorial for him. When it is my time he will be buried with me. Because our love for each other is eternal.
Remsmom

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I’ll keep some of my Remington’s ashes in a necklace and the rest in a box until he can be buried with me. I don’t feel strong enough to release him. I want him safe at home with me where he stayed and loved to be.
Tammys

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Remsmom that is how I feel. I want my boy Lucky to be safe and be always with me. Not being in the cold ground and being by himself.
bpmalott

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I also agree with both of you. We intend on having our pets ashes put with ours when that day comes.But for now they are here with us where they belong. I cannot fathom the idea of them being put in the cold ground.😪
Amieb

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Hi, i had to make the awful decision to help my little mikey fall asleep 6 days ago. Losing him has been the most traumatic event ive had to go through, not dealing with it well at all. I have made the decision too have him come home where he belongs in a lovely oak urn that will sit on the shelf in my living room above his favourite chair. I am also having a very lovely and tasteful necklace made with a small amount of his ashes. The company i have found is called 'ashes into glass' and is based in the uk. I have read that they will take orders from abroad too. Im hoping having a necklace will bring me some form of peace as he will always be close to my heart x
bpmalott

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So very sorry for your loss of your Mikey. It has been 6 days since our Mikey and Joey crossed the rainbow bridge into heaven. My heart feels like it is in a million pieces....and it will never be whole again. We had 2 very sweet Maltese whom we loved so much, sI know your loss. Joey had Cushings and was in liver failure. He had begun to have crying spells and was losing weight. Joey was losing his hearing and was almost blind. He was so afraid he was going to hit something and his face would show his fear. 😢Mikey had COPD and he coughed non stop. He began to cough up fluid. The vet had tripled his meds, but it did not help not even a little. The X-ray showed an enlargeheart, liver and fluid in his lungs. We could not allow them to suffer any longer. One day I think I’m okay and the next day my emotions get the best of me.😭
VT

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Hi everyone,

Quick question for you all that's kinda on topic- have you worked out what to do with your pet bedding, bowls etc? My baby boy has been gone just over 3 months and when he died I immediately put all his beds and toys etc in a box in the garage because I couldn't bare to look them. I'm looking after a coworkers dog in a few weeks and I'm quite excited so I thought I'd pull out some bedding for him but found myself sobbing in my garage today. So I won't be using any of it but I certainly don't want to throw it away.
What did you all do with your bits and pieces afterwards?
This grief just never ends.

Thanks x
BrooklynDogMom

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Hi VT,

I kept a few of my Bella's things.  A favorite blanket, her water bowl, collars, and a few of her sweaters.  I put them in a small container/memory box which I will always keep along with some thoughtful condolence cards I received from loved ones.
The rest of her things, if they were in good condition, I donated to a local animal shelter.  My local Petco collects these supplies to give to charity.  Of course I wanted to keep her most special memorable items, but it made me happy to know that the rest of her things were going to a good cause, to dogs who need it most.
Take care of yourself friend.  I too find the grief very difficult.  It comes in waves.
VT

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Thank you so much, that's really good advice. It seems so obvious now! I think knowing it's all going to a good cause will help make it easier to part with most of it. I think I'll find a nice box to store the rest.

Thanks again. It really does help ease what is a very isolating grief.
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