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This past Tuesday I had my buddy Bear put to sleep. He was 14 years old. He'd been suffering from arthritis for some time, and a few months ago we discovered a very large mass on his side. The vet didn't say for certain it was cancer, but we did discuss whether or not it would be worth it, putting such an old boy through the testing.
Over the weekend he stopped eating. Stairs became next to impossible for him, both going up and down. He slept constantly and just seemed to want to be by himself more times than not. My parents, who hadn't seen him since Christmas, we visiting and shocked at the change they saw in him. Obviously I didn't see what they did since I saw him every day. The vet took a look at him on Tuesday and said that he was declining. She was worried for his quality of life and told me that she would agree with my decision, should that be the way I went. I didn't want to put him through anymore...I wanted him to still have his dignity. I've been terrible ever since. Last night I became convinced that I made the wrong decision. I feel so guilty for doing this to my buddy. Did I though? Everyone keeps telling me it was time, and the vet even told me I did the right thing...I still feel like I didn't give him a chance. :(
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So sorry for the loss of your sweet Bear. It is always such a difficult decision to let our pets go. I have had to make that choice more than one time. It is normal for you to question your decision, however, given what was going on and your vet's concerns I believe it was the right decision. You must miss your beautiful boy terribly. You made a difficult decision to end your boy's suffering, you did it because you loved him. Please keep reaching out. This forum has helped me immensely.
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Dearest Bear's mom,
I know how you feel. I went through the same emotions as you. I still look back and wonder if I let Termy go to soon, he was just over 16. As with Bear, Termy was declining and stopped eating and drinking,boy I can't tell you the things I tried, he slept a lot to on his last weekend. We all second guess ourselves, it's only natural. But we need to think of Bear and Termy and their quality of life and know that we did do the right thing. You are Bear's hero and help him in the most lovable way. Even though it hurts and you feel as if you want to die, you did it for love and out of love. Bear loves you and always will. Please be gentle with your self and grieve as much as you need to. Remember the journey you shared with bear for all those wonderful years. Love and doggie hugs Termy's mom