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Hi All, I am in desperate need of some reassurance after putting our beloved family dog Benn to sleep yesterday. He was 13 years old.
Benn was a chocolate lab and my siblings and I loved him to pieces ( as did my parents) In the end he lost the use of his back legs and one front leg due to arthritis. Everyday he was struggling more and more to do anything. He had constant accidents in the house as he had nerve damage and therefore didn’t know he was going to the toilet a lot of the time. We decided as a family we think it’s time for the vets to come to the house and put him to sleep. I just can’t get over the experience and the guilt that I feel. I thought the vets would come and tell us there was new medication he could be on or something they could do but when they agreed it was the right choice it hit me.
We live by the sea in the U.K. and Benn spent his last day sat on the beach which was his favourite thing to do.
I keep thinking we could have kept him going a few more months....
if you have any comments that will help me feel less guilty, I am in pieces.

Thank you, Em

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Dearest Em,
What you are feeling is perfectly natural. Quilt is normal but from what I read you and your family did the most unselfish and compassionate thing for Benn. You talked it over as a family and took into account his quality of life. As hard as it is to let them go, it was right. Yes you could have kept him going for a few months but it would have been for you and not for Benn. When we make a decision to let them go, it's important to remember that you did it out of love. You loved and were loved in return. Benn is at peace now and not suffering from pain anymore. You will for awhile torment yourself with "we should have" and "maybe we could have" but let it go. Benn loved unconditionally as you should love yourself, it's his lessen to you. Think of Benn at the Bridge now with no more pain and running free, he's happy again. you'll miss him for the rest of your life but one day you will see him again but until then remember the journey you shared and the memories you made. Be gentle with yourself, grieve, cry but once in awhile smile for Benn.
Love and doggie hugs
Termy's mom

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Thank you for your kind words. It is so hard, he was the first dog we ever had and the most loving, amazing boy in the World. I have never felt emotions like this having not made a decision like this before.
I know that one day I can give him a cuddle and a kiss again. I really miss him but I need to remember we did the best thing for Benn.
Thank you again x x x
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