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My husband had been treated for a brain tumor ten years ago. While he was recuperating, I had read about pets helping with the healing process. We had a cat who passed the year before, and losing him was difficult, but reading that encouraged me to want to adopt again and my husband was eager to as well.

We adopted Burley and he was a joy. And when my husband's cancer returned six years ago, this time fatal, Burley was a source of comfort. We'd grown so attached over the years, every night he'd snuggle up beside me, he'd sit next to me on the couch, he'd be waiting to greet me at the door. 

I took him for regular check-ups and he was active and healthy. So imagine my surprise when suddenly he couldn't move his back legs and was crying out in pain. He was rushed to the vet and we got the diagnosis that I'd never heard of before, but in my research online is all too common in cats: saddle thrombosis. Just like I had to let his daddy go, I had to let him go. 

It's doubly hard because not only have I lost Burley, it's like I lost the last connection with my husband. Just so sudden, I don't think it's even sunk in yet, I haven't even cried yet, but I loved him so much. I'd like to think he and my husband are reunited out there, somewhere, I just have no evidence. Right now, I'm so alone.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I just had to tell someone.

Posts: 104
Oh, I am so, so very sorry for your losses. Please come here as often as needed and know we will listen and care.

May you find peace and comfort.


Posts: 774
I am sorry for your loss. Saddle thrombosis in cats is horrible.. As you know from your research, there isn’t much that can be done. There are no warning signs. The only humane thing to do is euthanasia. You don’t get time to adjust or really say goodbye.

I am sorry for your cat and for you. I think you must know deep in your heart that your husband and Burley are together again.

I hope you are able to find comfort in the loving memories you have of them both.

Posts: 15
That's so tough...I can't even imagine going through the loss of my husband and then the loss of a cat (unexpectedly). I can't understand why things like this happen to us, but please know that you're not alone. I hope that you find peace soon.

Posts: 106
I am sorry about your kitty -- there is no easy way to lose a pet but that suddenness adds an element of shock.

I truly think the loss of a loved one refreshes the grief of earlier losses; it brings it all back especially when there is a connection between the loss like your kitty and husband.

Keep the good memories of both of them close in the weeks and months ahead, and know we all care and empathize.

Posts: 30
Thank you all, yes not only have I lost Burley, it's like losing my husband all over again because of their connection. They both passed far too soon, my husband was 39 and Burley was 10. I knew Burley was getting "up there" in age, but I hoped I'd have at least another five years or more with him. We were like two peas in a pod, he was always at my side.
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