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Regina1075

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I lost my 17-yr old Yorkie (Fred) 3 days ago due to heart failure. He was a precious family member. I lost my husband 8 years ago...it was just me and Fred for those tears...we grieved together....most compassionate and sensitive dog I ever knew. I'm a retired widow who usually am most content at home. Now that Fred is gone...my house is so very empty..his shadow around every corner. I 'accidently' look for him constantly. For the first time ever, my home is not my happy safe place to land. It's a sad empty shell. I always Fred needed me and I took care of him well. I didn't realize how much I needed him. I'm having a hard time getting interested in anything, but to cry. Our daily routine just abruptly stopped. It's so hard to find my new way......the emptiness in my home takes my breathe away. He wasn't just a dog.....he was my Fred. Never felt so very alone. Am I just feeling sorry for myself? That's not like me.
ccyh1210

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No you are not feeling sorry for yourself. Losing a dog is super hard, they are closer to us in many ways than even a lot of human family members. They stay by our side through thick and thin, never complaining, always so sweet. They are the best companion we could ever have.

I am so sorry for your loss. Take your time to feel sorry for yourself and do not feel bad about it at all.
Melissa2003

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I too lost my Yorkie, Charlie, he was 13. It hasn’t quite been 24 hours and the pain and grief is almost unbearable. Reading your post which was very similar to my situation has been the one comforting thing I’ve had all day and is helping me realize I’m not the only one in the world feeling the way that I do.
Regina1075

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Melissa2093........you definitely aren't alone though it's such a lonely journey. I've known grief before, but the grief I feel for the loss of my sweet dog is indescribable.....a part of me ripped away. Human loss is usually understood by all and support is near. Not many people can show real sympathy towards our loss, thus we fear trying to reach out to people . That makes the grip of grief even worse! Our babies were not just dogs. I consider them a gift from God. Fred was nearly 17 years old...I knew I couldn't keep him forever. I feel blessed to have had him this long. Time will help heal this void as will prayers. I'm a believer and know it helps. I believe my husband that has passed now holds him. They were once very close. God isn't going to not take care of our sweet dog companions. I'm praying for you.....it will get better.......look toward good things. Loving our furry babies has a high price when they have to leave. Memories are a treasure. I'm grateful I had him to share my life as long as I did......it would never have been enough. Bless you. We will be ok.
Regina1075

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Melissa2093........you definitely aren't alone though it's such a lonely journey. I've known grief before, but the grief I feel for the loss of my sweet dog is indescribable.....a part of me ripped away. Human loss is usually understood by all and support is near. Not many people can show real sympathy towards our loss, thus we fear trying to reach out to people . That makes the grip of grief even worse! Our babies were not just dogs. I consider them a gift from God. Fred was nearly 17 years old...I knew I couldn't keep him forever. I feel blessed to have had him this long. Time will help heal this void as will prayers. I'm a believer and know it helps. I believe my husband that has passed now holds him. They were once very close. God isn't going to not take care of our sweet dog companions. I'm praying for you.....it will get better.......look toward good things. Loving our furry babies has a high price when they have to leave. Memories are a treasure. I'm grateful I had him to share my life as long as I did......it would never have been enough. Bless you. We will be ok.
Melissa2003

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Regina1075 thank you so very much for your kind words. I feel like you completely understand what I am going through. Today was a much better day for me and reading your message only made it better. I cannot express how much it means to me that you reached out at a time when I felt like no one else was able to reach me. I will forever be grateful.
cosesmom

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Dearest Fred's mom,
It's so hard to let them go. I know your heart ache and pain. We depend on them so very much to help us ease through the days and when they are gone the emptiness is so loud you almost want to scream. I am so glad that you had Fred to help you with the loss of your husband. I truly understand how you feel, you want to see them walk into the room or ask you for a scratch behind the ear and now all that is gone. I lost Termy over 19 months ago and I so want to see him come walking down the hall or wanting to go for a walk but now those memories live in my heart. Please remember the journey that you shared with Fred. I know saying that he is still near you, watching over you and guiding you is not the same as him being there. Fred was loved deeply and you were loved as deeply. There is a bond that we share with God's greatest creation that will always be there. Fred's spirit lives on and he is healthy again just waiting to be reunited with you as you walk across the Bridge to the arms of you husband and a very happy little Yorkie.
No, you are not feeling sorry for yourself, your being a normal mom and grieving your loss. It'll take time but take all the time you need to grieve and cry if you need to. The new normal is hard to get used to. I still haven't found my zest for life that I had when I shared it with Termy. It's just a day to day thing now. I miss him so much and will never be the same. My joy and reason for living left with him. I know that when I get there (at the Bridge) it'll be one of the best days of my life since September 18, 20017.

Sending you all my understanding and support.
Bless you and peace to your broken heart
Love and doggie hugs
Termy's mom
Regina1075

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Thank you so much for your sweet and compassionate words. As others have stated, it helps to know others do understand. I have no true words for the loss I feel, but I trust time will heal and ease the pain. I ask God to see me through, as He did when my husband passed 8 years ago. Losing my little Yorkie Fred rekindled that grief again. He was a constant family member for just short of 17 years...a long time. The worse thing is all the tiny memories around my house that constantly pop up......not including Him with our evening snack, calming him when the stove sets off the smoke alarm (he went berserk and would bite my ankles), reaching for him at night from the foot of the bed, just opening the door to let him to re,ember go isn't there...so many things. He's not here when I return home..so glad to see me.....that's awful now. So empty. It's been 10 days now since he died.....I am not crying as much. Thank you for taking the time to encourage me and all who reads this. It's a hard journey to travel ..this thing called grief. I pray for everyone affected and ask all to pray for me. It helps. I do believe that my husband holds him now.....and if God's Plan allows, I will see him again.
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