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JerryC

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Have read many new post over the past few days and a lot of you are dealing with the guilt of having to do what I and many of us have had to endure. Releasing our companion and soul mate from their pain. I believe the guilt process is the worst part of it you need to release it first before you can move on with however you are going to cope with your loss. I want to share an experience I had, many have read this on my tribute to our departed Peaches. I made the dreadful drive to the vet and was there when he released her from her pain on 05/21/2008. Over the past few months I had watched her, Peaches, as she slept in our bed appear to be in some far off place her little legs were churning and she was making some sort of muffled bark. Peach was a 16 year old Chihuahua we had for nine years after my wife's parents passed away. Well on the drive back home to lay her to rest I too was asking myself "What more could I have done"? I looked down at her and the strangest thing seemed to appear, it was if I was looking at her and she was young again even her coat which at 16 had lost some of its shine appeared to take on a different appearance. It was if I could call her name and she would wake up, I did but alas nothing happened. It was then that any guilt I had seemed to just disappear for looking at her then I knew in my heart she had finally reached that magical far off place she had been visiting those many mornings I had watched her in her sleep, she was young and vibrant again and with her first parents my father and mother in law. Rest assured you did the right thing considering each of you circumstances. I am so sorry for your losses, trust me you did the right and mostly humane thing for that special friend, companion and soul ate in your life and if they could they would thank you for it and someday they will.........God Bless You All.

                                      FOR PEACH 05-21-2008
                                               THANK YOU FOR THE NINE
                                     YEARS OF JOY AND HAPPINESS.
                                               YOU ARE AND ALWAYS WILL BE
                                               IN OUR HEARTS. 
Jerry and Gwen Copple
Oktaha, OK.





basil

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That is such a lovely thing to happen.  My little Basil was a very old man, and I too noticed that in his sleep he just seemed to be elswhere.  He would be running and trying to bark as well.  Much love Di, may you soon find comfort.  xxx

WooWooWoo

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Jerry,

What a lovely and considerate post.  I am so impressed with you.  While suffering great pain, you are reaching out to help others.   Peaches must have a little paw in this, too!!  On her last day, my Betsy was sleeping a lot, dreaming, and making joyful little yipping sounds like she was talking to the angels.

I have been dealing with some residual guilt over sending Betsy to the Bridge when I did, and without insisting the vet give her a sedative before the dose that stopped her beautiful and loving heart (he had insisted it wasn't needed). 

Your post helped me.  For this, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Hugs,
Melissa
Betsy's forever mom
JerryC

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WooWooWoo;
You are correct I believe Peach would have wanted me to be here for others. This site has helped my get through my difficult time. It seems that each time I respond even if a short message it helps me deal with my loss. I do it because I know what each and everyone of you have and are going through. I do it because if I can only help one of you out there during this difficult time; mission accomplished. Glad I could help you Melissa for you have helped a lot more than you will ever know with your considerate and heart felt words.-----------Jerry in Oklahoma. 
WooWooWoo

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Thank you, Jerry.  I feel the same way about Betsy.  I decided after she passed I would stay with this board and try to help others in her memory.  She was a loving little thing and never met a stranger.   She adored children...and cats!

I know little Peaches and Betsy have found each other and are running the lush, green meadows of the Rainbow Bridge.   Every now and then, they stop for a second, look down on us, and smile.   They know how much they are loved, and their love for us is perfect.  They are just biding their time until we meet again.

Hugs to you and Gwen from the Texas Hill Country,

Melissa

P.S. My husband and I previously lived in Vernon, Texas which is very near the border of Oklahoma.  We ventured into Altus often to eat dinner and watch the Airforce planes land and take off.
basil

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Dear Jerry, please keep coming back and posting.  I do it too, as others do, in memory of my Basil and all of my other guys that have left over the years.  It gives me great comfort too, knowing that perhaps I am helping others, albeit in a small way.  Love Di, xxx  http://petsupports.com/a01/sorcha.htm

  Love you Bas xxx
smarlies72

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Wow! What an incredibly wonderful site! I've just stumbled across these pages whilst mourning the loss of my beautiful girl Jesse. A Dalmatian just 3 months shy of her 13th b'day, we decided it was time to end her suffering of a heart arrythmia and recent continuous seizures that seemed to be getting worse and give her some peace. My mother and I who were her constant companions are inconsolable and wonder if we did the right thing by Jesse - of course, with our Vet's advice and knowing that to try to keep her going with more tests and medication was only going to extend her suffering, we knew what we had to do. We have always been devastated over the years when one of our pets has left us, but for some strange reason Jesse's passing has caused an incredible amount of grief. We miss her terribly, But I find solace and comfort in all of the posts on this site and for the first time in 4 days since we made the heart-wrenching decision to let her go, I might just be able to get some sleep tonight. I feel I am amongst friends. Thank you.


mw0263

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Jerry,

It will be one week at 10:40 tonight that I had to assist my beloved comet to the RB.  You'll never know what a comfort your post has been.  I was looking through some of my pictures of her and came across the one on the day she came to live with us when she was 8 weeks old, she was 6 weeks short of 15 years and it was the first time she slept in her new home with her loving family and I swear that when she passed and went on to the RB she looked exactly the same peaceful way.  The exact same sleeping position and the same look on her face as that first day.  Though it breaks my heart and the tears are just running down my face I find comfort in knowing that she went to her final rest the same way she did on her first rest with us.  I know that my comet has sent me here to all of you and she is still trying to help me with this so thank you  for being here and letting read your post because I know that I had no choice but to assist her but have felt the guilt of letting her down and this post makes it a little easier to live with that decision.  So thank you.

I am truly sorry for your loss and know the pain that you feel right now.

Margaret
JerryC

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basil;WooWoo;smarlies72;mw0263;
Thank you for you warm responses. basil, I will continue to post here rest assured. As I have said it is my way of dealing with my loss hoping I can help anyone during their difficult time and I see it has been a help, especially for you mw0263; Margaret. I except your thanks but our Peach deserves the credit sadly without her loss I would have not even been aware of this site.
I have to come here to see how each of you are doing and offer my condolences to others who have just started their journey of dealing with your loss after their companion and soul mate has departed on theirs towards the bridge. My wife and I placed some Flowers at Peaches final spot yesterday, we did perennials, they will bloom this time each year, about the same anniversary date of Peaches's journey to the bridge. Last week end was Memorial Day weekend and there is a cemetery not far from our place where my wife's parents and a year and half granddaughter are resting. The cemetery fills up with a lot of families and some stay the week end. Please I mean no disrespect for those of you who have lost family members but generally when the people leave, not all, but most return back to their normal lives. Well I will tell you, and I know there are a lot of you who feel the same. I have a Memorial Day each and every day in my heart for Peach and life as I knew it will never be the same.
I need to close for now one of Oklahoma's famous thunderstorms is fast approaching and don't need a computer malfunction. Until next time, God Bless.--------------------Jerry in Oklahoma.

                                       FOR PEACH
                           05-21-2008
 
Jerry and Gwen
Oktaha, Ok.
sixlets

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Dear Jerry,
Thank you so much for your thoughtful post.  Your words have been such a comfort to me this afternoon.  My husband and I had to assist our Patches to the Bridge Friday evening.  She was suffering, and while we are mourning her loss, I know she is in a better place.

I have felt an incrediably amount of guilt over our decision.  I hope she can forgive us.  Your post has removed some of that guilt.

Thank you so much--you can't imagine how your words affected me.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  Take care and God Bless.
JerryC

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sixlets;
I have read about you and your dear Patches here before and am so sorry for your loss. I am grateful that I could provide some comfort in both you and your husbands difficult time. I truly believe that we have all been forgiven by those we have had to assist to the bridge. I can only imagine seeing them all now free of pain,suffering and enjoying all their new friends. Thank you for your thoughts in your difficult time and sixlets; I have been blessed, blessed with having been able to share nine great wonderful years with our departed Peach. God Bless you both.------------Jerry in Oklahoma

                                       FOR PEACH
                            05/21/2008
Jen7

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I totally related to your post. On the day I put my 13 year old Lady to rest, I couldn't get it out of my head how beautiful and peaceful she looked as I stroked her head, told her I loved her, and said my good-byes. I thought to myself that she looked as pretty as the day I brought her home at 6 weeks old. The vet said her eyes would remain open but Lady closed hers and she appeared to just be sleeping very peacefully. I remember her coat looking so shiny and smooth (which it hadn't been in the last year or so). It just seemed as though something special was happening although at the time I was so heart-broken. She looked like a little angel with this bright light around her....I will never forget it.

Nuggetsmum

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Hi Jerry,

Thankyou so much for sharing with us. That is just so beautiful,what a way to remember your Peaches. I wish I had that experience with my Nugget and that I could let go of the guilt. YOur words have helped me.

Thankyou so much.

Nuggetsmum Alana
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