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mkornreich

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I had to say goodbye to Alex a little over 3 months ago. Yesterday, a new friend of my son's came over and his mother stayed. They had never been here. She saw a picture of Alex and said, "oh, I didnt know you had a dog". It felt like someone punched me. I'm not sure why it hit me so hard...I miss her everyday and it is not often that someone can say something to make me sad because I already am when it comes to her. But it felt so wrong...what do I say? I used to? I do but she passed away? She was and is my family...she's just not here anymore. Thankfully, this woman had grown up with a dog and was devasted when it passed on, so she understood. But I couldnt stop thinking all night how absolutely wrong everything feels with Alex gone. It is so trite to say, but truthfully, a part of me is missing now and I feel it all the time.

I am so thankful to have this outlet with all of you because I'm not sure where the feelings would go otherwise.

Melissa
Murphy22

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It does feel wrong Melissa.  I have a large photo of my Murphy on the wall and when anyone new says anything, I say yes, that's my angel Murphy.  This is Murphy's Manor and she still sees over it.  She'll always be here.

When you have someone you loved so much in your daily life for so many years, and then they are gone, it never seems "right" again.  It's been 2 years for me, and I have tears in my eyes as I type this.  That love and missing them never goes away either. 
Take Care,
Sandie

Mare

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I have a picture of Christoph at my work station and many newcomers will comment on how cute he looks.  He passed two years ago, and I love talking about him to anyone!  Your heart will find peace as you continue to mourn and in time you will be happy to talk about Alex without feeling overly sad.  Our babies gave us the best years ever and we were blessed to be with them.

Mare
precious Christoph ~ best bunny boy in the world ~

LukesDad

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I still have many pics of Luke and Lil in my office, and people will often comment on how beautiful they are, and I just agree!  They are, and always will be beautiful!!  The small detail that they are no longer physically here on this earth is but a technicality!  The lives of my pups, the lessons that they taught me, the love that they gave me, and their Spirits that now watch over me are more beautiful than ever!  I owe so much of who I am to my precious pups!  And, now that they have blessed me with my SilverCloud and Rowdy, I can't help but feel that there is so much more to gain during this journey!

I feel sad when I feel the need to tell people that ask that my Luke and Lil have passed from this physical life, but I still speak of them with pride and love, to honor them, and to let people know that they are still very much a part of my life, and always will be.

Melissa, if there is any comfort in this, the "punch" you still feel is only because of the depth of your love for little Alex.  You honor him so much with your love!!  God Bless!  Rick
mkornreich

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Thanks everyone. It is nice to know others feel as I do. You all are right; I only feel like this because I loved her so deeply and because she was a huge part of my life. I heard someone at work the other day saying that when her kids were born, she didn't feel the same about her dog. I wasn't like that. She was as important as always. We included her in everything.

I hate that she's gone.

Thank you all again.

Melissa
LukesDad

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Melissa, sorry I refered to your little Alex as a "him"!  I knew better than that!  Rick

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