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iliesighed

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I’m not sure if it’s because my dog’s passing happened over a month & 1/2 ago, or because I’m an awfully sentimental person anyway.

But I’d like to know if anyone can relate to what I’m about to describe, and if you have any tips to... cope?

I don’t cry consistently about Fluffy as much anymore, though I do have huge crying spells when I’m triggered. If I see a cartoon (he loved cartoons), I’ll sob. If someone mentions his favourite food, surprise! I’ll cry again. If a friend talks about their dog, I’ll still cry. I’m just tired of being hyper sensitive? (PS: Sorry for this kinda unusual post)
MinniesDaddy_17

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It is normal. It too will pass.

I have learned not to fight it, but to give in. I was in the supermarket, feeling fine, walked past the pet section and saw the food I used to buy her... Talking to my kids, one of them mentions a memory of Minnie... I see a program on TV with a cat that looks like her... there's a Cats Protection food collection point I sometimes walk past where I donated her last remaining pouches.... there are 1001 things that can still trigger me 9 months later. I go for days without an episode and think "maybe I'm over it", then something comes along and BAM!

It's not the level of grief from a few months back, but it still hurts and I still cry, but I let it wash over me, and I don't resist, and so it passes.

Time is a healer...
cosesmom

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It's not unusual at all. I do fairly well now but I too have triggers that will set me off and I sob and talk to him a lot. Like baking an apple pie the other day and I started to really cry. My husband asked what was wrong and I said Termy always ate the crust because I never liked it, now I don't have him to eat my crust. To him it sounded silly but to me it was heart breaking. I finally took his condo (crate) to the basement and cried. I still cry when I go down there because it reminds me he doesn't need it anymore. I don't think there are any tips or cures for this except to say to ourselves that we still remember. Yes it hurts but we remember. As long as we remember our babies are never gone because we hold them close. So cry, it's good for us. I know I have friends that don't know Termy is gone and I know I will cry just telling them about him. It's normal. I don't think I want to ever stop thinking about him and things that may trigger me to start crying. We are human and we hurt. Termy's Bridge day was Sept. 18th. Hold it all close in your heart and do what ever to make you feel better.
Love and doggie hugs
Termy's mom
iliesighed

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Thank you for your replies, & especially for reassuring me that this is normal ♥️! I’ve never been so over-sensitive in my life, even though this is not the first time I’ve lost a loved one. So I guess I’m just confused at myself.

Anyway, thank you again. Both Minnie and Termy seem like such lovely kiddos (I call all pets kiddos) - it was really nice to hear your memories with them.

PS: I fed Fluffy pastry crusts too, Termy’s mum ☺️
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