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Its been 3 months since Sampson left us and I am still hurting and crying. I see him in all the things I do. I see him in the garden or sitting by the computer while I am working. On the bed in the morning.
Its as if I am mourning every dog we ever had they seem to have come back and are all wrapped up in Sammy. The one dog we have left is just a shadow of what she used to be. She is now almost completely deaf and does not have the zest for life she had when Sammy was around. He kept her young. When my daughter drives up she jumps to the window and runs to the door. She knows Sammy always went for a ride with my daughter, her tail wags with excitement but then she walks away when she realizes Sammy is not coming in. When does this hurting stop.
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I don't think the hurting stops, but you get used to living with the pain. And, you will. One day you will remember the good and only the good things about your dog. One day you will smil again. Just hang in there
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Dear Zig, I wish I could answer your question... I have asked to myself many times the same. For me it has been three months since I lost my sweet little dog Jessie. It hurted and sometimes I could just not stop crying, but I was starting to be able to continue with my life. Then another loss, our adorable cat Neko died in a car accident. Again the pain sets in and it hurts to go home and see that eveything is empty. Their little toys here and there and we are waiting all time to see them... but they're not coming back... and that hurts... I guess it takes lots of time, everybody experience the pain in a different way... but I'm sure it would hurt all my life. Diana, Jessie and Neko's mom.
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Dear Zig, I wish I could tell you when the hurting will stop. For me it has been almost 14 months and the hurting is as strong as at the beginning. Sometimes I think it is even stronger. Maybe it is just different in that it is setting in to be what it will be for me from now on.
I do not dwell on their deaths because I know that they were ready, old and very ill and that it was the best thing for them. I have so many years of great memories to remember and to hold onto. But remembering our life together is what makes me so sad. They are no longer part of my life, they are part of my past and that is what makes me sad. They deserved to still be here and enjoying their life. So once again, the hurting will be what it is until you find a way to accept their loss and to find a way to life with the loss. There will always be a sadness for them. Some of us find a way to do this and some of us do not. Recovery is as varied as our pets were and as we are, there is no set formula for this journey of recovery and healing. As my husband always says "it is what it is and for as long as it is" we just have to move through it and accept the fact that we feel as we do. We just have to be patient and not try to rush the recovery. Helen
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It's been almost 3 months for me too, we're in the same boat, you with Sammy, me with Grunt. Everything you've said rings so true. To be honest, I don't think the hurting ever stops, not when these babies are loved so deeply and the pain from their loss firmly imbedded in our souls. I feel for every loss on this site, and feel the ongoing ache that often just doesn't end. It does help to support and empathize, and it does help to know that others understand and don't judge. I'm here for you, I feel for you. Hugs, Katharine, Grunt's Mom Forever I am so hoping that my Grunt and your Sammy are playing together at the Bridge.
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I wish that there was an easy answer to your question, but there is not. Christopher has been gone for over 14 months and I am still in tears every day. The pain still lives on and for the most part has consumed my life. I wish there was something I could say that would make it better, but I have not found anything that helps. I just wanted you to know that this is the best place to be as everyone here is wonderful and understands your pain. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Big Hugs Georgeann and Christopher Forever
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I'm so sorry for your loss of Sampson. Three months ago,Jingles, my dog died and I still miss him so much and I always will.What made it worse is that he was only 5 years old.I don't think the pain of losing our furbabies ever goes away,but once the pain passes it gets a little easier to think of the happier time. You are in my prayers Jingles mom
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Thankyou all for your replies. It does help to know that others feel the same way. I can be watching something on the TV totally unrelated to Sammy it could be something on the news about the rescue of an animal. It will reduce me to tears. Or I walk in the garden and see were he went to the bathroom on one of my plants. The plant is yellow were he did his thing. I remember telling him not to do it but he would just look at me and carry on.
Tonight we watched an advert for carpets. A dog was involved he was dropping the ball in front of this man and the man threw the ball for him. It made me sad to watch it. Sammy would bring a ball in and drop it in front of me then if there were others in the room he would take turns in dropping the ball in front of each one of us. I try not to dwell on him at the moment as its just too painful. It does help coming here even though I try not to come too often as its just so sad. But we are all bound together with the same bond of love for our furry animals. I do hope Sammy is playing with Grunt, the last few months of his life were so filled with pain I would enjoy seeing him happy and youthful again.
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It has been 17 weeks for me having lost Rupert and the pain goes on. I am a little better the last few weeks but I still cry at seeing black cats (Rupert was jet black), animal cruelty stories and hearing on this web site of dying animals. Sammy is not ill any more and nor is Rupert and hopefully one day I will see him again on the Rainbow Bridge. I have lots of pictures of Rupert but I cant even dream of him. That would be nice to see him running free and well again. Rupert's sister is not 100% well. She is also 15 years old. They say time is a great healer and what we need is time. Ruperts mum