Registered: 1524884738 Posts: 6
My dog Rizzo has been gone now for a little over two months, for those who haven’t read my other post, I had to put her down suddenly because of kidney failure. I missed her symptoms and by the time I &
got her to the vet the kidney failure was too far to do anything about. She was diagnosed on a Wednesday & I had to put her down the following Monday.
The grief I feel is so physically heartbreaking and at times feels unbearable. I’m able to make it though the day, but night time is by far the hardest. I feel her missing the most when my brain has time to rest & I just start sobbing. I miss her so much & I feel like the people around me expect me to “be over it”. I’m not married, I don’t have kids, and Rizzo was my companion. How do I just get over it? I loved her more than most humans & she definitely spent more time with me than most people in my life.
I feel like I dont have any support. I feel like I’m going crazy because I’m so heartbroken. She’s gone & it’s over...I’ll never see her again & I can’t stop crying...
How do I cope with these feelings? Does it ever get better???
Registered: 1452869625 Posts: 52
Hi Jenkra. I don't know if any of us really get over it. I've had many girls and boys that passed and I still can cry at the thought of thinking of them. It is hard. I guess it's the price to pay for their absolute unconditional love they give us and the love we, in turn, give to them. If they could only live longer, but their natural lives are so much shorter than ours. Somehow it just doesn't seem fair. People will say, including I, that time does help to heal the pain and hurt you are feeling. Well, it does, but it comes slowly. There are those times when I am looking at old photos or videos and remembering memories of all my pet kids and I'll just start shedding tears wishing they were all still here. I guess what you need to do is try and celebrate the joy and happiness that Rizzo gave you. These pleasant memories will eventually start to take over your sorrow. It won't be immediate. It may take time. But it will happen. You will still have those days, like I do, that will sadden you, but the "good ole days" that you had with Rizzo will help alleviate your broken heart.
Don't worry about what others think. You need to go at your own pace and go through the grieving process on your own terms. Whatever you need to do, however you need to process what happened is in your control, not others. You will get through this. You will cry, and cry, and feel good one day, and cry and cry another, and so on and so on. But, you will survive. Just remember your dear Rizzo and the good days you shared with her. She will forever be in your heart. She will forever be a part of you. You will never forget and a time will come when you can celebrate and talk about her and all the good things you two shared. This will happen. I myself just had my dog Oliver put to rest after a long illness. It is never an easy decision, but it really is your final act of love for your dear pet. I knew Oliver was in pain, and that he was giving up and calling it a day. His downturn happened so quickly. I could just tell by his actions and how he looked at me. It was as if he was saying to me, "Daddy, we gave it a good fight but now it is time for me to rest and you need to help me so I don't hurt anymore". It wasn't easy, but it was the right thing to do. I am so sorry to hear about Rizzo and pray that you will find some peace and healing. Just keep her in your heart and remember her when she was whole and well. May you find calm and tranquility in days to come. You will be ok. Take care. Mike
Registered: 1452869625 Posts: 52
Oh Jenkra, I forgot to add this to my original post. I agree with you 100 percent when you said "I loved her more than most humans". My past work experiences put a sour taste in me about how I feel for my fellow man. I often kid my current co-workers that if I was on an island with my dogs and another human, and I was given the choice of either living with my dogs or that human, well guess what, that human better start swimming to another island. I'll choose my dogs hands down!
Registered: 1524963064 Posts: 11
Heidigirl and Jenkra, I agree with you both if I were given a choice I would chose my MOLLY my Boxer over any human being, I lost her about 6 and a half weeks ago no sign of any illness or pain, one night we were sitting in my favorite room with her by my side and all of a sudden she stood up and started swaying back and forth, took her to the vet right away but couldn't find out what was the matter, brought her home and about an hour later she made a horrible sound which I will never forget and in 5 minutes she was gone, I held her in my arms and just told her how much I LOVED HER AND SHE WILL ALWAYS LIVE IN MY HEART FOREVER. I know its a very hard thing to lose your precious pet I just hope it gets better with time, but just remember Rizzo will life in your heart forever, and I do believe in miracles some day I will be with my molly when its my time to cross over she will be there waiting for me Take care, and my prayers sent your way!!!