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I miss her so much...she was the greatest dog I have ever encountered.
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I just had to respond to your question, when I saw your post. To be honest, for me, it's been over a year and the pain is still there. I think everyone to some degree feels the same. When you lose someone so precious, the pain of of that loss affects you. For many, myself included, it also never really goes away.
I've just learned I guess to accept the pain as part of my life now. I know without a doubt, I wouldn't trade the time I had with Jasmine, for anything. Not even if I knew how it would all end. So day by day, I've learned I guess to function, with the pain. I do because I have to. I also know Jasmine would want me to go on, so I do it for her as well. Again, the grieving process is different for everyone, but finding others who understand is so key to surviving. I think if not for this site, I wouldn't have been able to get to where I am now. I hope you find healing and again remember, you're not alone. Take good care of yourself. Hugs to you, JasminesMom (Kathy)
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I feel for you and everyone here. I wish there was something I could say to make it all better. I read all your posts and feel so helpless with words or wisdom that can ease your broken hearts. Please know I am thinking positive thoughts for all of you.
It has only been a couple weeks for me, but I have come to realize that this pain is going to last forever. I've had other pets and while I still remember them and love them, my daughter Daisy was different. We were absolute soul mates like I have never experienced ever in life with any furbaby. Ever. Jasmine's mom, I am trying to do the same- learn to function with the pain somehow some way. I can see it's going to be a part of my daily routine for the rest of my life. I too wouldn't trade the six wonderful years I had with her for anything. It feels as though the more time goes on, the more I feel like I'm walking through thick molasses. As I more and more come to face with the fact that between now and when I make it to rainbow Bridge to hold Daisy again is a very very long time. I don't know what the future holds for me emotionally wise. Most likely more of the same. I'll continue to live with an enormous hole in my soul. I find myself so desperately wanting to know the meaning of it all. A fruitless emotional circle. Always ending with repeated frustration because there's no way to ever know the real Answer to my question. At least not until I find the Rainbow Bridge. I do hope you in some way can find some solitude and peace for yourself. Remember the good times. Don't be afraid or embarrassed to talk to your darling often... out loud. Know and be thankful for how blessed you were to have met and shared life with them- no matter how brief it may have been. Know your memories together will last forever, and weren't in vain. Know that true love... is truly unconditional, and is absolutely Everything. How wonderfully special that they all taught us this one thing. Love and light, Pat (Daisy's forever daddy)
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So sorry for your loss, I have to echo what both polkadots and JasminesMom had to say. It is approaching two months since I assisted our Chihuahua on her journey to the bridge. For me, she has been the hardest one. I have been down this road many times and Peaches's departure has hit me the hardest of them all. We all here have to cope and deal with the pain in each of our own way. I can truly say that this site has helped me deal with mine. It is a comfort to know you can communicate with others who know what it is like. Many times your closest friends and family have no idea what we, you, I and some many others are going through. For me the pain has subsided, its not the 24/7 type I experienced for many weeks. I know it is still there, dormant, waiting for the unannounced moment to suddenly reappear, and it has. Sometimes a thought or seeing a reminder of Peaches when she was here brings it back. There are many times here reading the messages that also bring it back but I believe I feel the pain more so for the others who are just starting to go through what I and so many here have.That is why, as you will see, others will reach out to you to help provide you with some comfort. Remember when they leave us they also leave a part of themselves in our hearts. Hopefully over time the pain will subside, cherish the time you had together. They are all at the bridge and watch over us each and every day and want us not to be sad. God Bless.-----Jerry in Oklahoma.
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It's been 4 1/2 months since I lost my Herbie and over two years since I lost Belle -- a couple of semi-ferals inbetween. I have spent this morning sitting on my back screen porch w/ the one remaining feral and I have been crying for hours, just remembering all those years of kitty activity on the porch and out on the back fence and how the feral colony came with the house when I bought it 17years ago, but I didn't know it at the time.
There was never a time when they weren't here, and they kept me here longer than I intended to stay. Now I feel like I can't leave, and I am trapped in my memories and my grief like a never-ending circle I know that I will have to leave here and put this part of my life behind me. At the one-year mark of Herbie's death this Feb 20th, I will try to face that fact. I am giving myself until then knowing it is hard to think clearly now. Herbie and Belle's ashes are buried out back just outside the porch. It will be hard to leave them. My grief is my life and nothing I do seems to be able to force me out of it. I wish I had answers Hrbie and Belle's Mom
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I'm feeling you Vinnie. This is going to be one of the hardest things to deal with.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I have no words of wisdom either but can only tell you that I feel the same way; I miss my Peanut so very much. I'm thinking that, eventually, the pain will lessen but the love will endure forever. That's what they gave us...all their love and trust. Unlike us, they accept death and take life as it comes, so very bravely. I hope to one day be as brave as my Peanut was.
Marie Peanut's Mommy